After approving blessings for same-sex couples, Pope asks Vatican staff to avoid 'rigid ideologies' (www.independent.co.uk)
from MicroWave@lemmy.world to world@lemmy.world on 21 Dec 2023 13:20
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Pope Francis has urged Vatican bureaucrats to avoid “rigid ideological positions” that prevent them from understanding today’s reality

Pope Francis urged Vatican bureaucrats Thursday to avoid “rigid ideological positions” that prevent them from understanding today’s reality, an appeal made days after he formally allowed priests to bless same-sex couples in a radical change of Vatican policy.

Francis used his annual Christmas greeting to the Holy See hierarchy to encourage the cardinals, bishops and laypeople who run the Vatican to listen to one another and to others so they can evolve to truly offer service to the Catholic Church.

Speaking in the Hall of Blessings, Francis told them it was important to keep advancing and growing in their understanding of the truth. Fearfully sticking to rules may give the appearance of avoiding problems but only ends up hurting the service that the Vatican Curia is called to give the church, he said.

“Let us remain vigilant against rigid ideological positions that often, under the guise of good intentions, separate us from reality and prevent us from moving forward,"the pope said. "We are called instead to set out and journey, like the Magi, following the light that always desires to lead us on, at times along unexplored paths and new roads.”

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autotldr@lemmings.world on 21 Dec 2023 13:25 next collapse

This is the best summary I could come up with:


Pope Francis urged Vatican bureaucrats Thursday to avoid “rigid ideological positions” that prevent them from understanding today’s reality, an appeal made days after he formally allowed priests to bless same-sex couples in a radical change of Vatican policy.

Francis used his annual Christmas greeting to the Holy See hierarchy to encourage the cardinals, bishops and laypeople who run the Vatican to listen to one another and to others so they can evolve to truly offer service to the Catholic Church.

“Let us remain vigilant against rigid ideological positions that often, under the guise of good intentions, separate us from reality and prevent us from moving forward,"the pope said.

"We are called instead to set out and journey, like the Magi, following the light that always desires to lead us on, at times along unexplored paths and new roads.”

Progressives and advocates for greater LGBTQ+ inclusion in the church hailed Francis’ declaration as a long-overdue gesture of welcome and acceptance.

Citing the teachings of the modernizing Second Vatican Council, he urged the assembled prelates to listen to one another, discern decisions and then journey forward, without being tied to preconceived prejudices.


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TheDankHold@kbin.social on 21 Dec 2023 14:01 collapse

Yeah that bit about adderal came out of nowhere, very odd fantasy you got there.

blargerer@kbin.social on 21 Dec 2023 14:10 collapse

The asshole is using their ADHD meds against them. You can see it as a recent post in Frosty's history.

jordanlund@lemmy.world on 21 Dec 2023 14:05 collapse

Removed under rule 4:

Rule 4: Posts or comments that are homophobic, transphobic, racist, sexist, ableist, will be removed. “Ironic” prejudice is just prejudiced.

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MotoAsh@lemmy.world on 21 Dec 2023 14:24 next collapse

Found the priest. Just make sure that break of celibacy isn’t with the altar boy, you lil scamp!

Lileath@lemmy.blahaj.zone on 21 Dec 2023 15:10 collapse

Isn’t having gay sex still considered a sin in Catholicism? I thought those blessings didn’t count as a marriage and having sex while not being married was a thing that constituted as a sin as well?

flooppoolf@lemmy.world on 21 Dec 2023 15:48 next collapse

The story of lot is actually incorrectly translated. It meant to say something along the lines of “the city was so rotten that the townspeople would sell their boys into sex slavery”

The evil is selling your kids. To gross people. That mean harm.

People took that as, they were gay so god drowned them in molten salt.

Omgpwnies@lemmy.world on 22 Dec 2023 16:45 collapse

Wild when you also consider that some of the ‘incorrect translations’ may have been on purpose to satisfy the intent of the king/pope who ordered the translation be printed.

SCB@lemmy.world on 22 Dec 2023 15:14 collapse

Everything is a sin in Catholicism, because the point of the religion is that nothing you can do can escape sin.

A major difference between Catholics and Protestants is that in Catholicism you’re expected to attempt to live a life as Christ wanted you to, and not just get a “free space” from Jesus for saying you believe in him.

Thus, gay people are unlikely to get Catholic marriages or become priests, but Catholics also don’t think gays are inherently more evil than any other sin, as a general rule.

The Catholic Church is not immune to change, and if readings of Scripture change so that gays are seen more favorably, or that women should be allowed in the clergy (neither of which is improbable, on a long timeline), then Catholic standards will change.

foggy@lemmy.world on 21 Dec 2023 13:57 next collapse

Pope Francis says to avoid Rigid Ideologies?

So, pope Francis says to avoid Catholicism.

In the name of the father, the son, and the holy Spirit. Amen.

aeronmelon@lemm.ee on 21 Dec 2023 14:26 collapse

A part of me thinks he knows what he’s doing.

Liome@pawb.social on 21 Dec 2023 13:58 next collapse

“Let us remain vigilant against rigid ideological positions that often, under the guise of good intentions, separate us from reality and prevent us from moving forward"

Never expected pope to diss christianity.

victron@programming.dev on 21 Dec 2023 17:16 next collapse

(Former christian) this whole Pope business has been sooo interesting. And I mean it in a non-ironic way.

Azal@pawb.social on 22 Dec 2023 02:31 collapse

Former Christian here… I’ll give the religion credit it allows for a lot of openness and exactly what the pope is talking about. The main icon of Christianity was all about accepting people, legit the time where Jesus got angry with whips and table flipping was because money changers and vendors were cheating the poor (long story: You had pilgrims that would come bringing currency that would not be accepted by the temple so the money changers would do exactly what was on the tin… for a fee, and then the temple was selling animals to be sacrificed, the doves being brought up specifically because they were sold to the poorest that couldn’t afford the bigger sacrifices.) This is the idealogical head of the religion who is said to have sat and dined with those considered sinners while shunning the so called “faithful”

Honestly even as parable the stories in the bible are perfect reflections of the way most Christians would react. It’s said regularly that the Christians would kill Jesus as a heretic if he came back… ignoring the fact that it was those that had power within the church that crucified Jesus in the Bible.

I got lucky in being raised to go to a church with a preacher that was big on critical thinking. Another fitting example of Christianity ignoring its own teachings, post 9/11 said preacher gave a sermon talking about a religious extremist with a middle eastern background that spoke out against the prevailing government at the time, explaining that was exactly who Jesus was, the sermon on not hating from statements just made by assumptions, had the magazine that on the cover that had the ‘real face of Jesus’ to show not your white long haired man but the middle eastern face as a part of the sermon… naturally said preacher was politely “let go” from the church.

DreamAccountant@lemmy.world on 21 Dec 2023 14:01 next collapse

Watch christians and catholics ignore everything this bullshit artist says. The pope has minimal control, refuses to use it, and reigns over one of the largest religious hate groups on the planet.

Their entire religion is a 'rigid ideological position". How the fuck are people in that religion supposed to ignore those when the entire religion is one? Just more stupid contradictory illogic that doesn’t mean a thing.

MotoAsh@lemmy.world on 21 Dec 2023 14:19 next collapse

“Just more stupid contradictory illogic that doesn’t mean a thing.”

I mean… the topic is religion. What else were you going to get?

QuinceDaPence@kbin.social on 21 Dec 2023 16:36 next collapse

Watch christians and catholics ignore everything this bullshit artist says.

Just going to point out Catholics are the only ones who give a damn about the pope. Protestansts view it as idol worshiping, kinda the whole point of Protestantism.

topinambour_rex@lemmy.world on 22 Dec 2023 15:28 collapse

Romans catholics. You can be catholics without following the pope leads.

stebo02@sopuli.xyz on 21 Dec 2023 23:25 collapse

Their entire religion is a 'rigid ideological position".

Don’t forget you can be Christian without being homophobic. The bible doesn’t say gay marriage is illegal. It’s just those bigots that seem to think so because they’re ignorant and haven’t actually read the fucking thing.

joeyv120@ttrpg.network on 21 Dec 2023 14:05 next collapse

Jesus Christ.

Imabirdlol@lemmy.today on 21 Dec 2023 14:18 collapse

Vgh

tacosanonymous@lemm.ee on 21 Dec 2023 14:13 next collapse

lol. His entire life is dogma; his position, home, city, and organization are a rigid and non critical exercise.

antidote101@lemmy.world on 21 Dec 2023 14:37 next collapse

It’s good for the soul to avoid rigid ideologies… Perhaps all ideologies.

irmoz@lemmy.world on 21 Dec 2023 17:16 collapse

That is a highly ideological thing to say.

chitak166@lemmy.world on 21 Dec 2023 14:39 next collapse

How do you be gay and catholic?

e-ratic@kbin.social on 21 Dec 2023 14:48 next collapse

Same reason how you can be a woman and a catholic: Indoctrination

flooppoolf@lemmy.world on 21 Dec 2023 15:42 next collapse

Church always has at least one extremely obviously gay dude serving. My interpretation of that stereotype is that usually that gay dude has the fear of god and his daddies belt instilled into them. Not a cute look. This usually prevents dates from being in public and reduces the whole situation into hidden meetings and idk, I wish them the best and to eventually see out of the church.

Pacmanlives@lemmy.world on 21 Dec 2023 16:06 next collapse

It’s not gay if it’s a young boy duh! /s

This is actually a huge issue though on accepting the LGBTQ+ community at large and getting them in at least here in the United States. A lot of other religions have started to and I have gay and trans friends that go to these churches because they accept them for who they are and don’t try to shame them or try to change them

SCB@lemmy.world on 22 Dec 2023 15:11 collapse

Short answer is: You just be gay and also Catholic.

In most Catholic churches, no one is going to care that I bang dudes any more than they care that I show up on Christmas and Easter.

They care significantly more if you say “Thanks!” when receiving communion than they do that you’re gay.

Catholics aren’t Evangelicals and they care about radically different things.

cabron_offsets@lemmy.world on 21 Dec 2023 15:00 next collapse

May this be the beginning of the end of this fucking cult.

stebo02@sopuli.xyz on 21 Dec 2023 23:19 collapse

i wouldn’t put my hopes up

MonkderZweite@feddit.ch on 21 Dec 2023 15:15 next collapse

That bit about condoms?

Corkyskog@sh.itjust.works on 21 Dec 2023 15:39 next collapse

Seems a little too late to try and pivot and get young parishioners back. They gone, people don’t go back to their old religion.

Corkyskog@sh.itjust.works on 21 Dec 2023 15:43 next collapse

Why did they adopt “magi” for the Wiseman? When historically it has been used to describe a magician, alchemist, witch, etc.

NoIWontPickaName@kbin.social on 21 Dec 2023 20:10 collapse
nullPointer@programming.dev on 21 Dec 2023 16:03 next collapse

what he really means is avoid “rigid ideological positions” like “don’t rape children”

prole@sh.itjust.works on 21 Dec 2023 16:05 next collapse

Are we gonna end up with an anti-pope?

I really don’t know, I just know the term and it sounds cool.

Bernie_Sandals@lemmy.world on 21 Dec 2023 16:27 next collapse

Honestly it’s possible. Certain diocese of the church (looking at you USA) have become far more conservative as the rest of the Church has passed them by. Vatican 2 has fully taken hold, and I really don’t believe the conservatives hold enough power in Rome to elect one of their own when Francis passes.

They very well might just take their ball and go home like the “Old Catholics” did after the reforms of the First Vatican Council.

Lamedonyx@lemmy.world on 21 Dec 2023 16:49 next collapse

I mean, there are already plenty, for example, Peter III, who leads a Spanish church that believes they are the rightful Church. (Also, antipope is a subjective word, like heretic. From the perspective of various sects, the Pope Francis is the antipope.)

Nothing stops you from calling yourself Pope and claiming you’re the rightful leader of the Church, hereby making you an antipope to the eyes of the Church.

Now is there going to be a relevant antipope, that’s a lot less likely.

The relevancy of antipopes hinged on the political power of the pope. Having the pope at your beck and call was an extremely powerful tool in the Middle Ages. But nowadays, between the secularization of most Catholic countries, and the massive loss of influence of the Catholic Church, an antipope would only have as much influence as his followers would give him, especially since they wouldn’t have the support of the Holy See or the Church.

misophist@lemmy.world on 21 Dec 2023 21:07 next collapse

(Also, antipope is a subjective word, like heretic. From the perspective of various sects, the Pope Francis is the antipope.)

I thought the Church claimed an unbroken line of popes going back to the apostle Peter.

Wouldn’t any competitor only have a legitimate claim if they named their first pope during the brief downtime between popes? Otherwise they’re just another protestant sect.

Lamedonyx@lemmy.world on 21 Dec 2023 21:53 collapse

Some did (the Spanish church from the example I gave named their first pope after the death of Paul VI in 1976), but nothing stops you from having your own conclave of bishops, and have them say that the current Pope has been judged inept to rule (although that has never happened before in the Holy See).

Which would make the line unbroken, the same way that the line was still unbroken when Benedict XVI resigned and Francis was elected pope.

afraid_of_zombies@lemmy.world on 22 Dec 2023 13:49 next collapse

Still I think if you are an anti-pope you kinda know it. You aren’t in the Vatican and people aren’t drooling on your ring.

prole@sh.itjust.works on 25 Dec 2023 11:59 collapse

I imagine it’s quite a bit different when an actual pope turns into an anti-pope, compared to just some random dude in Spain claiming to be Pope, no?

Lamedonyx@lemmy.world on 25 Dec 2023 23:51 collapse

For the Pope to turn into an antipope, you’d either need to have a massive schism in the Church that leaves the current pope completely stranded politically and causes the Church to ignore him, or you’d somehow need a higher authority than the Church to show up and name a different pope, and assume the current one wouldn’t yield.

So basically, short of Jesus showing up and naming a new pope that the current one doesn’t agree with, the current pope won’t become an antipope.

RIPandTERROR@lemmy.blahaj.zone on 21 Dec 2023 19:48 collapse

GAY POPE GAY POPE GAY POPE

PLS 😭🙏

Siegfried@lemmy.world on 22 Dec 2023 00:26 collapse

Im afraid, he is giving strong hetero vibes with this…

heterodox vibes

Vlyn@lemmy.zip on 21 Dec 2023 14:58 next collapse

This isn’t an actual step forward, just a ploy to keep religion going for as long as possible.

It’s obviously all a lie, they just keep softening their policies to stay relevant in modern times. Imagine if they stuck to their old believes from a few hundred years ago or actually followed the bible, they’d become irrelevant in just one generation.

So instead they adapt to keep their power.

evranch@lemmy.ca on 22 Dec 2023 15:55 collapse

This is how you exist as an institution for thousands of years, yes

PrincessLeiasCat@sh.itjust.works on 21 Dec 2023 17:05 next collapse

As someone who went to Catholic school for 12 years:

wut?

TheBlue22@lemmy.blahaj.zone on 21 Dec 2023 17:27 next collapse

Sort of like Christianity?

PatFussy@lemm.ee on 21 Dec 2023 18:34 next collapse

I actually dont like this. Im not super religious but hold your fucking ground. If you say something is not allowed then dont get pushed over because thats how society has transformed. He should be saying heathenism is rampant not “lets figure this out together babes, im sure god can come to an understanding”.

idiocracy@lemmy.zip on 21 Dec 2023 18:56 next collapse

if humans would only hold their ground they’d still be stuck in the caves.

critical thinking and changing your mind show strength, not weakness.

NoIWontPickaName@kbin.social on 21 Dec 2023 19:44 next collapse

God forbid that the church that preaches love and forgiveness for all shows love for all right?

duplexsystem@lemmy.blahaj.zone on 21 Dec 2023 22:54 next collapse

???

aprnu@feddit.ch on 21 Dec 2023 23:04 collapse

congrats, you just made some nonbelievers, believe again

Siegfried@lemmy.world on 22 Dec 2023 00:39 collapse

Then i saw her face

Soleos@lemmy.world on 21 Dec 2023 19:01 next collapse

It’s official, the Pope identifies as ideofluid

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Crow@lemmy.world on 21 Dec 2023 19:14 next collapse

Is this man actually trying to get into heaven or something?

DragonTypeWyvern@literature.cafe on 21 Dec 2023 20:31 next collapse

It’s like he doesn’t even know what being a Christian is about!

Hate and judgemental behavior.

linearchaos@lemmy.world on 22 Dec 2023 01:59 next collapse

I hate the religion, I hate that there’s even a pope. But this guy, He’s the fucking best.

evranch@lemmy.ca on 22 Dec 2023 15:53 collapse

Honestly as Christianity goes the Catholics are fucking moderates these days. Which really is saying something.

Also the Pope has like, the world’s best hat.

We’re a non-religious, casually Christian affiliated family and we’re seriously thinking of sending our daughter to a Catholic school just for the far higher quality of education. (No concerning priests or nuns btw, these are government run schools)

I never would have even considered it as an option 10 years ago. But they really do seem to have their shit together, terrible acts in the past notwithstanding

linearchaos@lemmy.world on 22 Dec 2023 18:46 next collapse

I don’t pretend to know where you are time vs money. And it could be that private school is your best option. I’m also assuming that you’re in the US but that may not be the case. And what you can throw away everything I’m saying here because I know public and private schools in Europe and many other places are entirely different.

I did private for a few years. The only substantial difference for me was that the private teachers would make sure you do your homework and punish you if you don’t.

YMMV, but I will have to say that probably 40% of those kids in my private school were Grade-A assholes. Zero compassion, every little thing was a do or die competition. The teacher would do the best she could to control social situations but, there’s only so much she can do. She’s not going to fight the other parents for you by kicking little Jimmy out for being a jerk. They bring the two sets of parents together and that’s about the point where you find out why Little Jimmy is the way he is.

The state schools are being pressured pretty hard for testing scores, so it’s not so much that they don’t want to teach your kids or can’t teach your kids, but they’re underfunded and overworked and are going to pick the ones that are easiest to teach to raise that number.

But you can probably get the same outcome from using public school and pulling in a tutor after say middle school. Your school might even provide tutelage, but you’re probably going to have to realize that it needs to happen and ask them for it.

If you have some time, even just getting marginally involved in your kids education you can pull off approximately what the private schools do. Order the common core teacher manuals that your schools use, once a week go over the same things they did in school. Tell your public teachers you want to get on the same page as them they’d probably be delighted no matter how useless the seem.

Again if you’ve got excess cash, The private schools will absolutely get the job done. Just do some due diligence, find some families locally that take their kids there start asking them particular questions that would suit your kids well.

Anything before around 10th grade, just make sure that they’re keeping up grades and knowledge in algebra, calculus, trig, science and english.

All those high school grades and scores are honestly trash as long as they get into the college they want.

evranch@lemmy.ca on 23 Dec 2023 00:34 collapse

So here in Canada (at least on the Prairies) we’re lucky enough to have Catholic school as a publicly funded option. There would be no additional cost to me.

The thing is my kid is doing great for now (grade 4) and I’ve taught her a ton of science, engineering and math from my own knowledge. She’s bright and engaged… At home. But the standard school system is trying their best to change that.

In her class at school they are still counting blocks and doing 2-digit addition. And they need to do that, because there are kids in her class who can’t count. And can’t read! In grade 4!

The teachers say she’s top of the class easily, but how do they quantify that, just that she seems smart? There is no scoring, no grades, no discipline. It’s nothing like school when I was young. There’s this little shit in her class that likes to scream so they gave everyone else earmuffs to use when he does. He’s not disabled or anything mind you - just a spoiled disruptive little shit.

It’s a trash environment that’s hard on smart kids. I taught her how to box and also how nice girls only ever hurt someone by accident. So far she’s knocked out a kid who likes to push little girls down the stairs and took another bully’s teeth out. She told me “but they were gonna fall out anyways. It was an accident!” Good job, kid.

More parents have been pulling their smart kids for the Catholic school and she lost 2 of her best friends there this year. Most of the other kids left aren’t really decent company… They are dumb as a load of rocks honestly. The selection pressure to the Catholic system and to private schools has taken its toll.

So I went to visit the Catholic school to see what it was like and it was night and day. The kids were all lean, healthy looking and bright eyed. No fat kids. No scrubs. No screaming brats. No tablets or phones, at recess everyone was playing sports and games and laughing and smiling. Looks like the kind of company I want my daughter to grow up with, honestly.

The principal was horrified to hear my stories from public school and promised that they teach kids individually with extra projects and enrichment for kids who are ahead. Which is great because often my daughter tells me she wants to just stay on the farm with me “Because there’s no point in going to school, I’ll learn more working with you”

They have sports, they have clubs, everything from knitting and choir to lockpicking and hacking. They have a full band program and an entire supply of loaner instruments! A huge and well kept library full of mostly secular books. All the stuff that a school should have, but mostly it’s what it doesn’t have that I’m interested in. Otherwise she’s going to fall off the rails and spend her highschool days like I did - bored to death and getting into drugs, drinking and causing trouble.

My wife teaches at a local college and is very concerned that the quality of incoming students seems to drop every year and yet their attitudes get more and more entitled. The Catholic district has won industry awards for their mentorship and job placement programs, the public district… Well… They don’t even have them.

linearchaos@lemmy.world on 23 Dec 2023 04:31 collapse

Yeah I’m out of my depth with your experience, sounds like you’re making a good decision.

evranch@lemmy.ca on 23 Dec 2023 05:32 collapse

Yeah it’s… Pretty bad here. I used to be proud to be Canadian but when I look at what I wrote, it drives home how our country is just a shadow of the place I grew up in. The average Canadian is barely getting by, and quality of services is degrading rapidly.

Sounds like you’re in Europe. I’ve often wondered what it would be like, if we could start a new life somewhere civilized.

I’m electrician and electric motor systems technologist by certification, systems integrator, programmer, millwright and machinist by skillset, CTO is my current job title. Wife has degrees in physics and controls technology, used to work oilfield engineering, now teaches science and math at post-secondary level. Daughter is a 9yo Linux desktop user and Python programmer, deserves a better future than this country has to offer. Got her an Arduino robot kit for Christmas.

Any market for people like us over there? I would love to abandon this sinking ship.

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GbyBE@discuss.tchncs.de on 23 Dec 2023 08:24 collapse

If you move to the EU, not only your skillset will determine how easily you can find a decent job, but also how well your diploma translates to the ones we have here. My guess is that for technologically or scientifically oriented degrees, that’s probably not too much of an issue, on the condition that the level of education for the degree you have in your country of origin is good enough.

If you’re seriously considering this, I’d suggest finding some people who made the same decision and talk to them about their experience.

The EU has its own problems of course, but I have the feeling there’s generally less inequality than in a lot of other first world countries. Access to good education and healthcare is generally cheap or at least affordable. Some countries cope with waiting lists for specialized healthcare however, although that differs from country to country.

As a Canadian, the language shouldn’t be an issue. In large parts of Europe, you can get by with French and English. In a larger, multilingual company, people usually default to English. I know a Syrian family who fled the war with their kids (the youngest wasaround the age of yours), and the kids learned the language (Dutch) very quickly and did well in school, moving on to university education. The parents had a harder time adjusting, since their degrees weren’t very compatible, but also the language remained an obstacle for them.

Godric@lemmy.world on 23 Dec 2023 07:21 next collapse

I grew up catholic, and personally don’t know many who could be described as a moderate. 90% of the catholics I know dislike the current pope intensely for his liberal views, so be wary

the16bitgamer@lemmy.world on 23 Dec 2023 13:07 collapse

Hey internet stranger. Here is another internet strangers 2 cents on Catholic High Schools based on my personal experience.

TL:DR Education is good, but the school might make it so they can’t take the classes they want or need for Religion Class (unless they mess up). And at my school there were cliques that socially isolated me and many others, with unchecked bullying which felt encouraged by the staff. I am happy I completed it, but I’d wouldn’t want my kids to go through the same thing.

This happened over a decade ago, but the school I went to was both good, and very, very bad. The pro was why you are considering it. The education quality is much higher than the local public school. I was prepared for University much better than those I meet at the University I went to, who went to public High School.

The con was two fold. First some education options were denied to other students due to “optional” religion studies class. Technically a school can’t force a high schooler to take religion where I went. But the check box for that course was always checked before I got the class sheet. Which meant that I couldn’t choose what optional courses I wanted if it overlap with that religion course.

On a side note they messed up 3 ways in my last year. They couldn’t get me in a gym class for gr 12, so I had to goto a gr 10 class, then I took a CAD course which I wanted and a coding, but by the time they realized I wasnt taking religion, it was too late. I was given a speal on how I couldn’t get a religion high school diploma, but just the normal one. It was fun especially since.

The second big con. The school was extremely cliquey. Like debilitating so. I was from another community, my bus ride was an hour away. So in Gr 9 I tried to make friends… But the cliques were already made. And I as well as many others were socially isolated. I didn’t find the misfits hiding away at lunch in the media classroom until like gr. 10/11. There was another crowd in the art room. This attitude sadly felt encouraged by some the staff, and bullying was out of control, it often resorted to physical violence more than once. I stayed off of the radar but I hated those 4 years. If it wasn’t for my activities outside of school I would’ve been in a really bad state.

With that said, there was another (3 in total) Catholic high school in my local area, which my extended family went to. Apparently the one they went to was so much better.

Retrospectively, I understood how much of a benefit it was to go there. I am happy I was able to stick it out. But I would do a lot of research before putting my kids into a Catholic high school since I don’t want them to have a repeat of my time.

evranch@lemmy.ca on 24 Dec 2023 06:50 collapse

Thanks for sharing your experience, stranger. This is one of the reasons I like Lemmy though I do still hang out on Reddit, more serious discussion, less memes and trolling. Well… unless you count the front page, I guess.

I can see the cliques issue being a big one especially if you were an outsider from a different community, and came in at the middle school level. That sounds brutal, honestly.

My daughter is lucky to be young and already have friends in the school, girls she grew up and went to daycare and earlier grades with. They still hang out on weekends and chat with their kid messenger app all the time, so that’s a foot in the door for sure. In the school she goes to now, there is already bullying and violence so I figure it can’t really be worse. On the upside I guess it’s already made her tough, we put her in Taekwondo after school and she took to it like a fish to water, she’s a little scrapper and her kicks are really mean for a 9yo girl. She already wants to integrate her boxing skills into an MMA style and they’re like no, you can’t spar like that with the other kids as they aren’t expecting a right hook!

The religion class issue sounds odd. It implies that those courses like CAD and coding are only available to those who give up the religious component? But those are premium courses that you would think they want their Catholic students to be able to take. Or am I misunderstanding the way it works?

I grew up with some guys and had some other friends who went to Catholic schools and it seems their opinions were similar to yours. Either they loved it and made friends for life, or they hated it and felt excluded from groups. Nothing in between. However even those who hated it said the same thing looking back, they were glad that they went there for the future opportunities it gave them.

The public school won’t allow an end of semester transfer out (probably because they lose the funding) so there’s plenty of time to confirm this is what I want for her before next school year, and I’m doing a lot of research and talking to a lot of people.

the16bitgamer@lemmy.world on 24 Dec 2023 12:17 collapse

Yeah I can give more context for that. Memory is hazy, but we had our day split into 4 periods, which our classes were held. 2 in the morning, 2 in the afternoon noon. For half the school year we take 4 classes, like English, Math, Chemistry Religion, and Gym. Then the other half of the school year we take another 4 classes like Civics, Physics, and two of our choice.

In Gr. 9 and Gr. 10 we only had the option to choose 1 extra course, I remember taking music. In Gr. 11 and Gr. 12 it was mostly chosen by us outside of the University track classes or the College track classes.

The issue is Religion was technically a “optional course” that we had to take. I was in Ontario when I was in school. According to the provincial law, you can’t force a student to take religion which is why we were never told. Or the option was selected for us.

The problem is that if a kid wants to take Physics, Chemistry and Biology, but also business and coding, they’d have to choose to not take one of them. Since the school will “encourage” them to take Religion, though I think with the right guidance councillor will help them find a way. Legally they can’t force them, but then why are they there, and you won’t graduate with a catholic school diploma.

I feel a lot of my issues stemmed from more of the staff encouraging the behaviours of cliques, rather than the students being naturally cliquey. Kids and kids and will do terrible things to each other. I feel it’s up to the adults in a situation to give a guiding hand.

Now I was given an out in my last year to back to public school. Not sure what it’s like where you are.

stebo02@sopuli.xyz on 21 Dec 2023 23:17 collapse

his days are closing in

TokenBoomer@lemmy.world on 22 Dec 2023 04:25 next collapse

Nothing is real anymore

afraid_of_zombies@lemmy.world on 22 Dec 2023 13:47 collapse

Except our outrage

TokenBoomer@lemmy.world on 22 Dec 2023 14:47 collapse

Not sure. Outrage has been commodified with clicks and merchandising. We should have been out in the streets, burning buildings 30 years ago.

afraid_of_zombies@lemmy.world on 22 Dec 2023 13:46 next collapse

Can he avoid fucking with the US Supreme Court and stopping his legions of priests from fucking small children?

TargaryenTKE@lemmy.world on 23 Dec 2023 12:54 collapse

How exactly is the Vatican fucking with the Supreme Court? (I’m not defending anything, I’m just genuinely curious)

MammyWhammy@lemmy.ml on 23 Dec 2023 13:19 next collapse

The youngest and least qualified member of the supreme Court who was forced through in the waning days of Trump’s administration, Amy Coney Barrett, was raised as and is still a member of the People of Praise, a para-church organization which consists mostly of Catholic members. People of Praise is a highly conservative organization that touts strong gender roles and is overall highly secretive.

At one point it is believed that Coney Barrett was the highest rank a woman could have in the organization, with the title of “Handmaid”.

During Amy Coney Barret’s confirmation hearings, the people of Praise purged all records of their magazine and member profiles from their website.

The People of Praise organization has been accused of covering up for child abusers on multiple occasions.

Source: Washington Post and the People of Praise Wikipedia article

afraid_of_zombies@lemmy.world on 23 Dec 2023 14:12 collapse

We have the most members on it right now who are Catholic in its history. Which caused an abortion ban and systemic stripping away of the rights of atheists.

PeckerBrown@lemmy.world on 23 Dec 2023 12:23 next collapse

Too bad choir boys can’t dodge rigid idealogues.

Zozano@aussie.zone on 23 Dec 2023 12:44 next collapse

What is even the point of religion now? They profess to be a moral compass, but when they catch-up with the times, half of their followers cry “traitor!”.

arken@lemmy.world on 23 Dec 2023 13:01 collapse

Well, the main “point” of religion was never to be anyone’s “moral compass”.

Zozano@aussie.zone on 23 Dec 2023 13:20 collapse

Their main point is to convince people they are, hence, gay pope.

arken@lemmy.world on 23 Dec 2023 20:57 collapse

Still wrong. As you are probably aware, religion (broadly defined) as a phenomenon is present in all known cultures throughout the history of humanity, in a myriad of different shapes and forms. The common thread to all of them is not morality.

Zozano@aussie.zone on 23 Dec 2023 21:28 collapse

I know they aren’t, I’m saying their claim is that they are.

It’s even common to claim everything God does is just and right. If gay people get killed in a nightclub, it’s because they’ve sinned, and that’s Gods will, therefore, the gunman was doing the right thing.

Then you get the people with cognitive dissonance who claim that slavery was moral because God stipulated rules about how the slaves should be treated and “it was a different time”.

Then you get the people who turn themselves into bombs and believe mass murder is right, and the people that died should thank them, because the psycho took their victims to heaven with them.

Then you get the people who vote against abortion rights because they believe the most ethical thing to do is save babies, even if it risks the mothers life, or guarantees poor life quality (either from poverty or developmental issues).

It’s ALL a moral claim. When your moral foundation is God, nothing you can do in service of what that God supposedly says can be wrong.

arken@lemmy.world on 23 Dec 2023 21:56 collapse

All those things are abhorrent, still not the main point, core or raison d’être of religion in any way. One could perhaps say it’s a recurring theme in certain traditions, particularly of the abrahamic variety. Your perspective is very limited and very west-centric; ironically a very christian worldview.

Zozano@aussie.zone on 23 Dec 2023 22:16 collapse

Well that was condescending and not very constructive.

Can you tell me which modern religion doesn’t profess to provide a moral compass?

Transporter_Room_3@startrek.website on 23 Dec 2023 13:42 collapse

Recently heard a catholic who once tried to tell me that everything the pope does is ordained by God, and therefore “good”, go on a tangent about how the pope is now corrupted by Satan and “needs to be taken care of” with the clear intention that someone should murder the pope over his “not as negative as it used to be” view of lgbtq.

Weird how their priorities used to be “God church family country” back then and all it took was a little taste of fascism to turn them To “my chosen human replacement for Jesus, the group of people who look and vote the way I do, THEN maybe church, family mixed in there too if they look and vote the same way I do”