Why people say they have a "boy cat" or a "girl cat" but when the cat grows up, they don't call is a "man cat" or "woman cat"?
from wesker@lemmy.sdf.org to nostupidquestions@lemmy.world on 14 Aug 2025 23:20
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Canconda@lemmy.ca on 14 Aug 2025 23:22 next collapse

nostupidanswers? cuz there are no man cats or woman cats. That’s some weird human-cat chimera shiz.

Onomatopoeia@lemmy.cafe on 14 Aug 2025 23:25 next collapse

They do? Who does this? I’d say ask them.

I use the terms “male” and “female”.

SpicyTaint@lemmy.world on 14 Aug 2025 23:27 next collapse

Because they are all fur babies. Always.

undefined@lemmy.hogru.ch on 14 Aug 2025 23:27 next collapse

I’ve read a lot about how dogs have evolved to hit some of the same triggers that human infants do. I’ve also read about how we tend to view pets as children in our minds. I imagine that that all plays a role in it.

Dasus@lemmy.world on 14 Aug 2025 23:50 next collapse

We totally do.

You can address a pet like you would politely address an adult, but only in a jokey way. Like “oh, and who’s this handsome gentleman/lady?”, same as with kids.

saltesc@lemmy.world on 15 Aug 2025 02:25 collapse

I dunno. I view my dogs as companions. Yeah, they need me to look after.them like they’re children, but I need them to take care of me in the wilderness, protect the house, cheer me up, entertain guests, tow me on the longboard.

There’s no association with them and a human child for me. If anything dog ownership has shifted my mentality into the symbiotic relationship of a pack. I think being stuck thinking of them as children would make for some very miserable times and bad behaviour from both the owner and the dog.

undefined@lemmy.hogru.ch on 15 Aug 2025 04:58 collapse

I agree, but I also think the studies are speaking more broadly and possibly on a subconscious level. I feel the same as you but at the same time I can acknowledge evolutionary traits they might have.

Kolanaki@pawb.social on 14 Aug 2025 23:28 next collapse

IMO:

Boy/Girl cat implies gender.

Man/Woman cat implies anthropomorphism.

RoidingOldMan@lemmy.world on 15 Aug 2025 00:21 next collapse
scarabic@lemmy.world on 16 Aug 2025 04:31 collapse

Right but why is that your opinion of how those words work? Because the only strict differentiation between man/boy and woman/girl is age.

ski11erboi@lemmy.world on 14 Aug 2025 23:42 next collapse

Boy and girl cats grow up??

aaaa@piefed.world on 15 Aug 2025 00:05 next collapse

My cat was an "old man cat" for a while before he passed.

Anyhow, a "man cat" just sounds like a cat who dresses up like a man and fights crime

floo@retrolemmy.com on 15 Aug 2025 00:08 next collapse

I believe you’re thinking of Catman

Zachariah@lemmy.world on 15 Aug 2025 00:22 collapse

respect my authoritay

I_Fart_Glitter@lemmy.world on 15 Aug 2025 01:14 next collapse

Yes, but Lady Cat and Gentleman Cat just sounds like cats being fancy. And cats are fancy.

SpaceNoodle@lemmy.world on 15 Aug 2025 01:34 collapse

You haven’t met my chonker

I_Fart_Glitter@lemmy.world on 15 Aug 2025 01:40 collapse

fancy chonker

SpaceNoodle@lemmy.world on 15 Aug 2025 01:43 collapse

He is not fancy

He reminds me of Missouri

I_Fart_Glitter@lemmy.world on 15 Aug 2025 01:48 next collapse

Shape wise? Or because he particularly enjoys barbecue?

SpaceNoodle@lemmy.world on 15 Aug 2025 06:23 collapse

The people

seralth@lemmy.world on 15 Aug 2025 05:31 collapse

That’s still fancier then mississippi

SpaceNoodle@lemmy.world on 15 Aug 2025 06:23 collapse

Worse food tho

Tollana1234567@lemmy.today on 15 Aug 2025 07:58 next collapse

or a human/cat hybrid. like splice.

RaivoKulli@sopuli.xyz on 15 Aug 2025 08:15 collapse

Man cheetah

floo@retrolemmy.com on 15 Aug 2025 00:07 next collapse

Because pet owners tend to infantilize their pets.

Bazoogle@lemmy.world on 15 Aug 2025 16:11 collapse

Easy to do based on their small size, large eyes, big ears, and fluffy fur.

InvalidName2@lemmy.zip on 15 Aug 2025 00:21 next collapse

Generally speaking, the terms man and woman are reserved specifically for humans. I couldn’t tell you why, but I suppose it doesn’t really matter.

For pets, the use of boy/girl probably does have a lot to do with how people tend to infantilize their companion animals.

Additionally, the boy / girl terminology is often generalized to cover all animals, particularly when adults are interacting with children and by extension when children are interacting with each other. It’s not uncommon to have a child ask something like “is that a boy rabbit or a girl rabbit?” but it is a little unusual to hear an adult ask another adult that same question, unless it’s sort of tongue-in-cheek or maybe in the presence of kids.

spankmonkey@lemmy.world on 15 Aug 2025 00:51 next collapse

I do call my doggo ‘old man’, but never just called him a man.

Revan343@lemmy.ca on 15 Aug 2025 03:27 collapse

Adults would generally use actual adjectives, ‘male/female cat’ instead of ‘man/woman/boy/girl cat’

LibertyLizard@slrpnk.net on 15 Aug 2025 00:29 next collapse

Cat smol.

exasperation@lemmy.dbzer0.com on 15 Aug 2025 00:37 next collapse

Not a lot of cats grow to be 18 years old.

riskable@programming.dev on 15 Aug 2025 00:43 next collapse

Because that would be a cattasrophe!

FoxyFerengi@startrek.website on 15 Aug 2025 01:17 next collapse

My 16yo cat is definitely a prim and proper old lady. Oddly, I call the 4yo Maine Coon “little man” even though he’s easily 4x the old lady’s size

I’m probably forever going to call my dog “bestest girl”, but she’s starting to get a grey muzzle too

Steve@startrek.website on 15 Aug 2025 01:36 next collapse

You can call your cat anything you want, they still won’t come.

Lembot_0004@discuss.online on 15 Aug 2025 05:14 next collapse

Because their real name sounds like a food pouring into the bowl.

Bazoogle@lemmy.world on 15 Aug 2025 16:09 collapse

That’s when you break out the tuna can. Try to see them resist that shit

Bishma@discuss.tchncs.de on 15 Aug 2025 02:04 next collapse

Human/animal bonding is aided because their faces retain neotenic features that remind us of babies. So many are inclined to relate to them like children.

From that article:

Accumulating behavioral and neurophysiological studies support the idea of infantile (cute) faces as highly biologically relevant stimuli rapidly and unconsciously capturing attention and eliciting positive/affectionate behaviors, including willingness to care. It has been hypothesized that the presence of infantile physical and behavioral features in companion (or pet) animals (i.e., dogs and cats) might form the basis of our attraction to these species.

It has been hypothesized that both behavioral and physical infantile features present in companion animals might form the basis of our attraction to these animals and may bear some part of the responsibility for our motivational drive to pet-keeping and pet-caretaking (Archer, 1997).

DeathByBigSad@sh.itjust.works on 15 Aug 2025 09:43 next collapse

That’s weird because babies are ugly. Cats, on the other hand, are just so… hey wait a minute, my cat stole my heart 💘😼

This spell, so potent… 😍🐈

BussyGyatt@feddit.org on 15 Aug 2025 11:39 collapse

I think this might be a case of cart-before-horse. It seems obvious to me that domesticated animals have these traits because they were selected for by our ancestors, not the other way around.

Bishma@discuss.tchncs.de on 15 Aug 2025 14:15 collapse

That’s true for dogs, less so for cats. It’s also immaterial since we’re talking about present attitudes toward pets.

BussyGyatt@feddit.org on 15 Aug 2025 14:26 collapse

I feel like the factors that shape our drive towards cuteness and what we find cute are not immaterial to our present attitudes towards pets… but no doubt you’re right to point out that there can be more than one factor at play.

Afflictedlife@lemmy.ml on 15 Aug 2025 02:43 next collapse

My cats are gentlemen and ladies

SkyezOpen@lemmy.world on 15 Aug 2025 02:58 collapse

I only have one lady. The rest I call terrible names.

Afflictedlife@lemmy.ml on 15 Aug 2025 03:07 collapse

Oh I call them like 100 terrible names as well but they are still nobles without rank or title

Doublenut@lemmy.zip on 15 Aug 2025 03:06 next collapse

One of my cats is a man cat. We always call him a man unless it Big Bubba Boi for the alliteration. The other cat is a demon.

otp@sh.itjust.works on 15 Aug 2025 03:45 next collapse

Because they get neutered/spayed

tacosanonymous@mander.xyz on 15 Aug 2025 03:49 next collapse

I can hold onto many feelings and ideas at once.

My orange baby boy is an old man.

Lembot_0004@discuss.online on 15 Aug 2025 05:12 collapse

Mama Trump, is it you?

vrighter@discuss.tchncs.de on 15 Aug 2025 03:51 next collapse

because they stay smol!

FooBarrington@lemmy.world on 15 Aug 2025 05:50 next collapse

The only true man cat is Idris Elba in Cats

<img alt="" src="https://lemmy.world/pictrs/image/95b75d88-2e34-4938-acaf-4f19452cb87e.png">

ms_lane@lemmy.world on 15 Aug 2025 07:21 collapse

<img alt="" src="https://lemmy.world/pictrs/image/0ec2ab1e-e879-4091-838d-391cfd59a8f5.jpeg">

“And that’s where you’re wrong, buddy. Damn I look good.”

slazer2au@lemmy.world on 15 Aug 2025 07:32 collapse

Fishy fishy

Tippon@lemmy.dbzer0.com on 15 Aug 2025 09:03 collapse

I’m gonna eat you little fishy!

TheDoozer@lemmy.world on 15 Aug 2025 07:03 next collapse

Same reason I refer to my 14-year-old dachshund as a puppy.

Because he’s my puppy.

Venus_Ziegenfalle@feddit.org on 15 Aug 2025 08:19 next collapse

Define “grow up”. Their personality changes with age but they remain fixated on their care giver(s) similar to children for as long as you let them.

DeathByBigSad@sh.itjust.works on 15 Aug 2025 08:45 next collapse

Because kitties are forever babies 🤗

disco@lemdro.id on 15 Aug 2025 11:22 next collapse

He’s just a lil guy

GraniteM@lemmy.world on 15 Aug 2025 20:45 next collapse

Speak for yourself. I’ve got two brother cats and I refer to both of them as little kitty cat mans.

NotASharkInAManSuit@lemmy.world on 15 Aug 2025 21:04 next collapse

I have a little man cat, he’s my little guy.

418_im_a_teapot@sh.itjust.works on 16 Aug 2025 01:52 next collapse

I have a dead cat. 🤷‍♂️

BleatingZombie@lemmy.world on 16 Aug 2025 02:41 collapse

How long have you had it?

418_im_a_teapot@sh.itjust.works on 17 Aug 22:16 collapse

I inherited it from my grandfather 12 years ago.

TriflingToad@sh.itjust.works on 16 Aug 2025 02:13 next collapse

my cat always acts like she’s a year old and is pretty small for a cat (we assume she’s the runt)
when we got her the pound said 2 years old (info from previous owner) but when we took her to the vet we got told that she’s actually about 5

She’s about 7-8 now and still looks just as adorable as when I got her!!

<img alt="" src="https://sh.itjust.works/pictrs/image/dc094896-4ddf-4397-b9bd-9017a98c9203.jpeg">

edit: this image also shows her bent whisker that got messed up when she tried to stick her head in the food container as I was shutting it a couple weeks ago lol

scarabic@lemmy.world on 16 Aug 2025 04:36 next collapse

I think for most people the answer is that pets are not considered peers. They have gender but we will never consider them on a level with human adults - maybe on a level with human babies or young children. We love and prize them, but we don’t give them equal rights and respect. Just like with children.

It probably doesn’t help that we also spay/neuter them at birth, which not only prevents them from ever becoming reproductively viable adults, but also affects their hormonal development permanently. I’m no biologist but it may be accurate to say they never fully mature, even if they do eventually age.

FWIW I personally have two human kids and I refer to our German shepherd as the 3rd grownup in the house. I do say “good boy” but I also say “hey man” and call him “old man.”

normalexit@lemmy.world on 16 Aug 2025 12:18 next collapse

Probably the same reason my six year old dog is still my puppy. She is just a baby after all.

RickyRigatoni@retrolemmy.com on 17 Aug 2025 02:05 next collapse

When you’re 50 years old and start dating someone do you call them your wo/manfriend?

wesker@lemmy.sdf.org on 17 Aug 2025 02:53 collapse

She’s not my special lady, she’s my fucking lady friend.

toynbee@lemmy.world on 17 Aug 23:42 collapse

<img alt="No tire kickers user tag" src="https://lemmy.world/pictrs/image/289b78bb-4392-4953-baf8-84814f327fdd.jpeg">

I only very vaguely remember applying this tag to you, but it’s making me chuckle. Most likely that’s why I did it.

Korne127@lemmy.world on 23 Aug 22:24 collapse

How do you do this?

toynbee@lemmy.world on 23 Aug 22:31 collapse

It varies per client, but for me (Connect on Android), tap a comment to expand it or open a user profile, then tap the three dots, then tap “add user note.” I’ve heard that some other clients call it a tag rather than a note.

Korne127@lemmy.world on 24 Aug 01:27 collapse

I’m just using default Lemmy in the browser 😔

6stringringer@lemmy.zip on 17 Aug 06:43 collapse

My friend had a a cat that as a human would have been a balding, neurotic man with a mustache and glasses. A very high strung cat tbh. His name was Mr. Pappy.