How do people in this day in age become nazis/neonazies sexist or even incels when there is so much knowledge against it? Do they get anything out of being that way?
from Don_Dickle@lemmy.world to nostupidquestions@lemmy.world on 24 Aug 19:12
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theywilleatthestars@lemmy.world on 24 Aug 19:13 next collapse

They get to feel superior to vast swaths of the population without doing anything.

Buffalox@lemmy.world on 24 Aug 20:17 collapse

Probably generally starting with either an inferiority complex, or being a sociopath.

ladicius@lemmy.world on 24 Aug 19:17 next collapse

Emotions are stronger then intellect, much stronger. And most of these people suffered in bad childhoods and were drilled or neglected into disempathy. (That’s not the necessary reaction to such childhoods but it’s a common reaction.)

Don_Dickle@lemmy.world on 24 Aug 19:36 next collapse

Ok so your telling me since when I was bad in my childhood and spanked with a switch that I can become one?

Sanctus@lemmy.world on 24 Aug 19:42 next collapse

Anyone can become filled with hate.

chemical_cutthroat@lemmy.world on 24 Aug 19:53 next collapse

That’s certainly their rationale.

SatansMaggotyCumFart@lemmy.world on 25 Aug 06:26 next collapse

It’s weird how some people turn into neo-nazis or incels after that and I just pay sexy Russian dom mommies to beat me within an inch of my life.

ladicius@lemmy.world on 25 Aug 08:34 collapse

No. Your response to such childhood is very individual. It’s a very common stance to live your life the opposite way of your parents lifestyle. That’s what produced the 1960s air of change in culture - hippies lived the very opposite of their parents ideals.

I simply point out well researched patterns in childhoods and their influence on character traits. Look up developmental psychology and transgenerational patterns. In Germany there’s a lot of research and publication about “war children” and “war grandchildren” (Kriegskinder und Kriegsenkel) which in general attributes a lot of the countries troubles and shortcomings to the upbringing of kids in a war and post war society with a lot of shame and guilt.

marcos@lemmy.world on 24 Aug 20:29 next collapse

suffered in bad childhoods

Just to say, but what causes those things are hate and fear.

The second one doesn’t require trauma.

ladicius@lemmy.world on 25 Aug 08:24 collapse

Fear is a general human trait woven into our existences and should/could be reduced in a loving and supporting childhood. If love and support are missing in your childhood you don’t learn to handle your fears in a mature and stable way.

(I know I’m painting this picture with a very broad brush. It’s to point in the general direction of feelings as the most plausible and applicable answer to OPs question.)

kemsat@lemmy.world on 25 Aug 03:01 collapse

To be fair, those involved in the bad childhoods also are likely to have bad childhoods themselves (the adults I mean).

ladicius@lemmy.world on 25 Aug 08:42 collapse

Transgenerational stuff, victims becoming offenders and the likes.

Yep, you’re right, that’s what’s meant here.

PhlubbaDubba@lemm.ee on 24 Aug 19:31 next collapse

If you remember the post trump election memes about economic anxiety being mediaspeak for racism, this is basically where that came from.

Bigotry is a despair response, when the promises of normalcy fail someone, there’s a chance for them to start looking for new meaning to understand a seemingly indifferent world, and in that state of mind, being told you’re part of an exclusive club of inherent superiority is the ego stroke that gets them off.

From the moment they take that poison pill it basically plays out as an analogue of addiction. Even as they watch the sludge they’re mainlining destroy everything around them it doesn’t cut them off from, they just can’t stop, because the validation of feeling that it’s the entire world that’s wrong instead of just you being shit out of luck is too much for a lot of folks to be willing to part with.

It also doesn’t help that these people tend to get fired from jobs that don’t put up with racist bullshit, turning the whole validation needing into a vicious cycle sort of deal.

This is also why some very stupid self described leftists seem to have zero worry about the rise of fascism (even as they insist that they’re the only ones who truly take it seriously as a threat), they think “just do a socialism bro” will instantly fix everything as if economic hardship would never happen to a socialist society even within a vacuum.

They literally think you can just pay the racists to stop being racists, and that you can pay a heroin addict to stop shooting up.

octopus_ink@lemmy.ml on 24 Aug 23:00 collapse

This is also why some very stupid self described leftists seem to have zero worry about the rise of fascism (even as they insist that they’re the only ones who truly take it seriously as a threat), they think “just do a socialism bro” will instantly fix everything as if economic hardship would never happen to a socialist society even within a vacuum.

I have to admit - I’m having a hard time picturing how this would be expressed. Any particular examples you can point to?

PhlubbaDubba@lemm.ee on 24 Aug 23:10 collapse

All the “don’t vote” leftists that think democrats not voting Bernie is less forgiveable that the Republicans closing abortion clinics and kicking gay kids out onto the streets.

They think perceived direct opposition to socialism is worse than something they believe will just magically go away once they finish bribing the racists to not be racist.

octopus_ink@lemmy.ml on 26 Aug 11:48 collapse

I think the viewpoint of those folks currently is essentially that Dems will see a direct line between their support of Israel (for example) in the current Gaza genocide event and the fact that they did not heed in any way the voices of progressives, leftists, and others, and realize when Trump wins (again parroting what I believe to be their viewpoint) they should be more inclusive of those groups the next time around.

I personally don’t think that’s a strategy that will have long term or short term benefits, because I don’t think politicians in general seem capable of strategizing to that level of nuance regarding public opinion, but I can see where they are coming from.

PhlubbaDubba@lemm.ee on 26 Aug 12:05 collapse

Which is a just maddeningly privileged take.

Someone spouting that line off is basically all but admitting they see everyone a second term would put in harm’s way as pawns they can sacrifice at will for the sake of some war against this spectre of an evil conniving and completely unified in purpose and goals DNC establishment.

It is a PoV available only to white kids and those who get their politics from mainly white kids.

Not to mention on the Palestine issue, only a white kid could see the man who handed the Israelis East Jerusalem and West Bank about to get back into power and think the play that helps the cause is threatening to let it happen if we don’t stop everything and listen to their “Imagine” soundboard platitudes and shit.

octopus_ink@lemmy.ml on 26 Aug 12:43 collapse

I agree with you, but that’s where I perceive their viewpoint to come from. I actually think I did see at least one person say something like “it’s bad for gaza now, but will be better for gaza later” or something like that. Happy to be corrected by any folks of similar mindset who want to chime in though.

squirrel@lemmy.blahaj.zone on 24 Aug 19:32 next collapse

Additionally to what has already been mentioned: People are susceptible to politics that confirm their prejudices. Right-wing political thought is largely based on confirming that whatever prejudices people hold, they are morally good and justified. Thus elevating an in-group above out-groups. That is a powerful lure.

yesman@lemmy.world on 24 Aug 19:42 next collapse

The Internet is like a library: repository of knowledge, it’s also like cable TV where every crackpot has a broadcast license.

How you use it is up to you.

Okokimup@lemmy.world on 24 Aug 19:46 next collapse

Here’s a great Ted talk from a guy who got pulled into the neo-nazis and got out.

ArbitraryValue@sh.itjust.works on 24 Aug 19:46 next collapse

You’ll find a lot of arguments for believing such things if you look for them. Some of these arguments are simply angry rants (and they appeal to angry people who aren’t inclined to think analytically) but others are quite sophisticated. Have I refuted all the sophisticated ones I’ve come across? No, that would take a lot of effort, and maybe some of them are even technically true. I’m not convinced by them primarily because I have certain assumptions about the world: conspiracy theories are generally not true, most people just want to live a good life, kindness is usually reciprocated, and so forth. Someone who holds the opposite set of assumptions (every organization is corrupt, many people are inherently evil, kindness leads to being exploited, etc.) won’t be convinced by your “knowledge against it” without even hearing you out in the same way that I’m not convinced by the arguments for it.

doggle@lemmy.dbzer0.com on 24 Aug 19:45 next collapse

There’s a lot of information, there’s also a lot of misinformation. Many people don’t trust authorities, sometimes for understandable reasons, so they end up in the fringes.

Also, the Nazis, and even the Confederates, weren’t all that long ago in the grand scheme. A couple generations. Many people learn these tendencies from their family.

Also incels are somewhat different from Nazis/fascists. There’s obviously a lot of overlap. There’s always been men who had trouble with women, but I think being a male virgin after a certain age is enormously more vilified these days than it was in, for instance, the 50s, even among more progressive, left leaning groups. Admittedly, that’s anecdotal so I could be wrong.

adespoton@lemmy.ca on 24 Aug 21:37 next collapse

Part of it is education and critical thinking. People don’t know what to trust because they don’t know how to test information for truthfulness and can’t reliably fact check. So they depend on an authority figure to tell them what and how to think, with expected results.

Note this isn’t limited to these people; some people just pick better authority figures than others.

otp@sh.itjust.works on 25 Aug 17:22 collapse

but I think being a male virgin after a certain age is enormously more vilified these days than it was in, for instance, the 50s, even among more progressive, left leaning groups.

Not sure if this is true, but I’m pretty sure that research says that people were having more sex back then. So probably fewer virgins back then.

There was less to do for entertainment in the 50s, lol

yeather@lemmy.ca on 26 Aug 04:46 collapse

Still a culture shift. Back then you were a stand up guy waiting for a dynamite gal to call his own, now you’re that weird 30yo who couldn’t get an easy lay in college and is too socially akward to date now.

lordnikon@lemmy.world on 24 Aug 19:46 next collapse

It’s engineered into society by power people. if you are too busy looking down on someone. You won’t notice them robbing you blind.

Forester@yiffit.net on 24 Aug 19:50 next collapse

Use the full quote

the_post_of_tom_joad@sh.itjust.works on 24 Aug 22:14 collapse

I’ll tell you what’s at the bottom of it. If you can convince the lowest white man he’s better than the best colored man, he won’t notice you’re picking his pocket. Hell, give him somebody to look down on, and he’ll empty his pockets for you.

-Lyndon B. Johnson

shalafi@lemmy.world on 25 Aug 01:51 collapse

engineered into society by power people

C’mon man! That’s conspiracy thinking if I ever heard it. The truth is far simpler, and scarier, people are people just being people. And there are a lot of people trying to navigate a wildly complex world we didn’t evolve for, one that’s changing at breakneck speed. We almost have to boil our experiences down into more digestible chunks to make sense of it.

This article is so old that the formatting’s been trashed, but I think you can parse the order of the text with a little effort. Few things I’ve ever read gave me a wider view of the world. It was so important to me I saved a PDF a few years back. If you don’t like the humor, fuck it, there’s still a strong message.

cracked.com/article_14990_what-monkeysphere.html

While we’re at it, here’s another game changer from the same author. I’ve thought nn this, and observed it, for nearly a decade.

cracked.com/…/6-reasons-trumps-rise-that-no-one-t…

lordnikon@lemmy.world on 25 Aug 20:14 collapse

you are correct that I was a little lazy in not clarifying my statement and I can see that coming off as a Them conspiracy theory mind set but the powers at be that I’m talking about are NAM and people long dead now like birch and pew.

Also NAMs role in the Taft hartley act that hurt unionisation in America that we feel today. and how NAM with the help of James Fifield warped churches across America as a response to The New Deal and FDR and fearing churches being a source of socialist thinking in the US.

If you follow this movement you will find people you know like Billy Gram and Ronald Reagan. Just look up the Spiritual Mobilization

en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Taft–Hartley_Act

en.wikipedia.org/…/National_Association_of_Manufa…

en.wikipedia.org/wiki/James_W._Fifield_Jr.

en.wikipedia.org/wiki/John_Birch_Society

en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Joseph_N._Pew_Jr.

ImplyingImplications@lemmy.ca on 24 Aug 19:54 next collapse

Racism and bigotry aren’t logical positions, but emotional ones. People have an emotional need to be part of a group and feel included. If the group a person joins is antagonistic towards other groups then the person will internalize that and become bigoted. The dislike of other groups becomes a part of their identity and belonging.

The documentary Behind The Curve illustrates this pretty effectively. They follow some flat eathers around and interview them and they all say the same thing. They love being a part of the group. They didn’t have a group before and now they do. Their beliefs keep the group together and they’re not going to get rid of them just because the beliefs can be proven to be wrong.

The desire to be a part of a group is strong enough that people will believe anything as long as it gets them some friends. There isn’t anything wrong with that unless the beliefs of the group are harmful and hateful.

vorpalMachine@lemmy.world on 24 Aug 19:59 next collapse

They are being constantly bombarded with algorithm-fueled targeted media designed to make them feel just good enough about themselves to keep watching the next video of ‘woke woman gets owned on camera and everybody claps’. Source: my childhood friend gets recommended this trash daily on his youtube homepage. I try to push against it without re-enforcing the narrative that The Liberals are the reason why he doesn’t have any friends. I don’t think it’s working.

cyborganism@lemmy.ca on 24 Aug 19:59 next collapse

Remember that racial segregation in the US wasn’t that long ago, historically speaking.

Some of children who lived through that era were raised with racism and these values were passed to their children who became Gen X and Y.

Religion also had a bigger influence in the previous generations. Homophobia and transphobia was normalized and you could even be arrested for being any of LGBTQ up until very recently and it’s still the case in some regions.

Nazi ideology never really left either. And the way this ideology came to be was through disenfranchised people who were angry and needed someone to be angry against. Someone came at the right place at the right time and gave these people a scapegoat.

Fascism is kind of the same but with a cult of personality.

jubilationtcornpone@sh.itjust.works on 24 Aug 20:10 next collapse

“When dealing with people, remember that you are not dealing with creatures of logic, but creatures of emotion. Bristling with prejudices and motivated by pride and vanity.”

– Dale Carnegie, How to Win Friends and Influence People

lord_ryvan@ttrpg.network on 24 Aug 22:44 collapse

Man, this sounds cringe. What’s this guy been through?

shalafi@lemmy.world on 25 Aug 02:27 collapse

The title makes it sound like a book on manipulating people, but it’s merely an archaic headline. It’s about the author’s quest to understand people, his frustrations due to the lack of such an “instruction book”, and learning how to become a better person. We might call it psychology or sociology now, but Carnegie visited and wrote many scholars of his time trying to find such knowledge.

If there’s any book I’d say everyone should read, it’s How to Win Friends and Influence People. Neat thing about it is, as the author says himself, you don’t have to read and parse it front to back to benefit. Pick it up, flip to a random chapter, read. It pays to read over and over again, occasionally reminding ourselves of our common humanity by internalizing the things he learned.

One quick example; He learned to shut the fuck up and listen. He tells a story about a dinner party he and his wife attended. We get the impression the host was quite the talker, dominating the conversation. Mr. Carnegie sat and listened to the man, hardly speaking at all. At the end of the evening the host went on and on about what a fine orator and clear thinker Carnegie was!

And if it’s the quote you take issue with, I don’t know how to respond. That’s simply how people are, you and I both.

lvxferre@mander.xyz on 24 Aug 20:14 next collapse

Access to knowledge doesn’t imply successful absorption of said knowledge. And a lot of the thing isn’t about knowledge, but moral premises - things that are neither true nor false, but that you consider good or bad, and as others said here emotions and self-interest play a huge role on the later.

Don_Dickle@lemmy.world on 25 Aug 00:48 collapse

Yea but isn’t knowledge a tool for understanding good or bad. If something someone tells me is bad or whatever I go and look it up read about it so I can have a discussion with them and understand their point of view. Am I wrong in doing so?

lvxferre@mander.xyz on 25 Aug 01:44 collapse

Not quite - knowledge alone is not enough to label something as good or bad. Because good/bad aren’t attributes of that thing, they’re only your attitude towards it.

That’s important here because it’s perfectly possible that a bigot knows that what other bigots use to justify their bigotry (like frenology etc.) is false, but still says “nah, screw them, I’m defending my own group at their expense”. And that person would be still a bigot and should be treated as one.

finickydesert@lemmy.ml on 24 Aug 20:33 next collapse

They can’t read /s Jokes aside they trust their git feelings way above facts and logic

GBU_28@lemm.ee on 24 Aug 20:54 next collapse

Feeling like a victim has a certain… Freedom.

These folks hunt for a bogeyman that “suits” the ills of their life, then apply the hateful stereotypes.

For the incel example: if they are a failure to launch and also can’t get a girlfriend…

  1. There’s some social order conspiracy + a genetic lottery they lost. It’s not their fault they aren’t desirable, everything was stacked against them. Their enemy (super chads and stupid Stacys) deserve hate because they overlook the incel and keep them down

  2. They never developed social skills, are disrespectful and only see women as sex objects/possessions. If they cultivated some hard work, maturity, and respect for others, they would be much happier with life, and likely find a partner.

The first option is way easier… Just blame everyone else!

mke_geek@lemm.ee on 25 Aug 00:18 next collapse

It’s easier on someone’s ego to blame someone or something else rather than admit they have faults.

GBU_28@lemm.ee on 25 Aug 00:47 collapse

Well put

Don_Dickle@lemmy.world on 25 Aug 02:51 collapse

Before incel was a thing and way before Andrew Tate…I thought my brother was an introvert. Because he could not get a gf in High School. Like me I just thought wait until he gets out and he will get one. Then I learned about incels this was about the time I heard Andrew Tate come on the seen. When my brother turn 21 I told him we are going to a bar and I am getting you drunk for the first time. Well we also smoked his first joint before hand and then went in. I was the sober driver and kept ordering cranberry juice. All the while I kept ordering him shot and buckets of beers and everything. I will never forget this put his head on the counter and I thought he passed out. But I shook him and he jumped to and started dancing on the dance floor and everything. I was like WTF. He then started hitting on girls/women and getting their phone numbers. He even got one to blow him in the bathroom. He came back to me totally messed up and told him we got to leave and we left. Well I almost had to drag him out to the car because he wanted more numbers. Long story a little bit longer I and I am probably wrong that incels need to get drunk or high and become more motivated like my brother was.

yourgodlucifer@lemmy.world on 24 Aug 22:47 next collapse

during gamergate i started going down the alt right rabbithole (at some point i stopped when i realized this was associated with out right nazi shit and re-evaluated my beliefs)

I was one of those “i am very smart” people as a teenager but I’m actually an idiot I was also a pick me (I am a woman). I found those video clips of feminists everyone was sharing at that time and became convinced that feminist = man hater it can be easy for people to twist fringe beliefs from a group and present that as common among that group. Due to this and me being a lazy idiot who didn’t fact check because I thought I was to smart to be mislead I went further down the rabbithole

I also blame poor us education on civil rights issues my state (new mexico) is on the bottom of the list for education i think it was around 49th at the time I was in school they presented civil rights issues as if they were solved so i thought “these sjws don’t want equality they want women/minority superiority” I thought they wanted to oppress the previously oppressive groups as revenge not realizing that civil rights issues have not been solved that we haven’t attained equality even though the law was supposedly equal.

I believed in equality but it got twisted by fascist lies into opposing actual progress and equality.

I can see how people went further down the rabbit hole one of the things these videos talked about was how the crime rate was higher for black people and that’s why there is more police brutality against black people. I can see how someone could take this information out of context and start thinking that black people were more crime prone inherently and that’s where some of these people took it.

ignorance is one of the biggest causes of prejudice.

psilotop@lemmy.world on 25 Aug 02:01 next collapse

What is a “pick me?”

shalafi@lemmy.world on 25 Aug 02:33 collapse

“I’m one of the good ones! I’m on your team!” Kinda like how many of us view blacks and gays who support conservative politicians.

someguy3@lemmy.world on 25 Aug 02:23 collapse

I thought they wanted to oppress the previously oppressive groups as revenge

Essentially, certain people want to enslave and dominate others. That’s how their brain works. So they project that’s what others want to do to them. They can’t mentally process that people want actual freedom and equality for everyone. They push this message out into the airwaves

shalafi@lemmy.world on 25 Aug 02:38 next collapse

Yes, that’s how their brains work! Not so much a moral failing, they’re wired different. Hard to get your own wiring around that.

I often see this in the idea of life being a zero-sum game. If someone gets a thing, that thing was taken from someone else. If blacks and gays get rights, my rights were taken!

See all the complaints that gay marriage diminished hetero marriage. Illogical and incomprehensible as it seems, keep in mind the zero-sum thinking and it makes far more sense.

yourgodlucifer@lemmy.world on 25 Aug 04:47 collapse

In my case I thought that we already had equality so anybody asking for more or complaining wanted special privileges and therefore they were trying to ruin that because they wanted to be the oppressor. In my twisted mindset I thought I was on the side of equality.

though I do definitely think there are some people who follow the mindset in your comment.

someguy3@lemmy.world on 25 Aug 13:14 collapse

I think that’s an understandable thought because they try to whitewash history. Once you whitewash history, it’s easy to convince people that a) it’s their own fault / pull yourself up by your bootstraps, or b) they want special privileges or treatment.

Reminds me of this youtu.be/Ot_MO0-oZdc

probableprotogen@lemmy.dbzer0.com on 24 Aug 22:49 next collapse

For the nazis, a big problem is the alt-right pipeline that plagues sites like Youtube, along with an unstable political climate, which generally causes radicalization (Weimer Germany is also a very good example of this phemona)

As for incels, a big problem is admittably a mental health crisis plauging many men, generally causing them to become resentful of women out of loneliness.

TLDR: Poor mental health and instability

ShepherdPie@midwest.social on 24 Aug 22:56 next collapse

The latter is aided by the same things as the former. Too many youtubers condition young men to think that women are the problem and the fact that they don’t take care of themselves or socialize with others doesn’t matter and it’s really the fault of everyone else. I used to online game with a couple of these guys who weren’t too bad until recently. They were both basically shut-ins who still somehow held strong beliefs about the outside world and why things are the way they are even though they didn’t really participate with the outside world.

jjjalljs@ttrpg.network on 24 Aug 23:01 next collapse

Yeah the Internet is full of traps that are engineered to draw men in. There’s blood on Google’s hands for just letting that happen. (And probably other companies too, but YouTube is big)

Related note: unchecked capitalism makes everything worse. Trying to get dates and the apps are just like “pay us $5 and maybe we’ll show your profile to someone. Be a shame if your beautiful profile just never showed up for anyone.”

Grandwolf319@sh.itjust.works on 25 Aug 13:31 next collapse

Ahhh, your almost there at realizing that capitalism commodified dating and is basically predatory against single men.

kent_eh@lemmy.ca on 25 Aug 13:49 collapse

unchecked capitalism makes everything worse.

Both in the context of this discussion and in society in general.

funkless_eck@sh.itjust.works on 24 Aug 23:46 collapse

YouTube but also porn. As it’s much less regulated in terms of tone and content, you get a lot of casual racism, misogyny and similar just thrown into the videos of pene and vagene

Zozano@lemy.lol on 24 Aug 22:50 next collapse

I know some people are born into these mindsets. I know what it’s like to have been raised by a bigot; indoctrinated thoughts are the hardest to change.

I am convinced a large part of the problem is some people prefer convenient answers which make immediate sense, as opposed to nuanced truths.

Could it be that racism creates conditions which lead to a higher frequency of situations which will reinforce racist stereotypes? Too much thinking involved, it makes more sense that the blacks are inherently different.

octopus_ink@lemmy.ml on 24 Aug 22:55 next collapse

Could it be that racism creates conditions which lead to a higher frequency of situations which will reinforce racist stereotypes? Too much thinking involved, it makes more sense that the blacks are inherently different.

I have struggled to communicate what you said in your first sentence in less than paragraphs several times and failed. Thank you for giving me an example of how to say it succinctly. Let’s hope I can remember/replicate that the next time I try to get the concept across to someone.

Don_Dickle@lemmy.world on 24 Aug 23:01 collapse

You should do an AMA it would be nice to hear about your exp growing up like that and how you changed your life.

Zozano@lemy.lol on 24 Aug 23:15 collapse

Unfortunately my experience is nothing short of common. Our current generation is the most tolerant in history, so naturally our parents will hold bigoted opinions.

If you want to hear a fascinating story, listen to Megan, who left the “God hates fags” church, and now tries to explain indoctrination.

Don_Dickle@lemmy.world on 25 Aug 00:42 collapse

I bookmarked this to. I am really filling up bookmarks with all these great links. So thank you.

Nemo@midwest.social on 24 Aug 22:56 next collapse

What they get is blaming others for their problems.

Don_Dickle@lemmy.world on 24 Aug 23:03 collapse

Seriously? So they fill themselves up with this shit and are ok with putting it out there? I will never understand it because I am very very lazy and it kind of seems like hate requires alot of effort.

ICastFist@programming.dev on 24 Aug 23:26 collapse

Ironically, this kind of hate requires no effort, someone says “GROUP BAD!” and you just sneer and shout towards them. It’s way, way easier to blame a group than understanding all the things that are making your life/city/country/world go wrong

“Of COURSE the evil jew gay black communist feminist conspiracy is the root of all evil, they hate MY way of life!”

There’s also the point that most conspiracy theories capitalize on the “this is a secret THEY don’t want you to know!”, so it makes people feel smart (despite them believing in utter bullshit)

Don_Dickle@lemmy.world on 25 Aug 00:25 collapse

Well I grew up with cable tv and the only news I got was PBS. And never felt hatred or whatever to a person who is different from me. I may have gotten the shit beatin out of me alot of time in school because of it. But it did not change my views.

FireTower@lemmy.world on 24 Aug 23:44 next collapse

Some people have problems in their life and it is convenient to believe they are do to an outgroup. You mention knowledge against it but these people live their lives and insert their instilled prejudices to explain the flaws, making them have (fake) first hand proof of their beliefs.

Don_Dickle@lemmy.world on 25 Aug 00:16 collapse

Ok while I may agree. But my father taught me when I was younger that a black woman has no place in this world so you will have to work extra harder to overcome hate and other things…my question is was he right? I say this as a now 41 year old.

FireTower@lemmy.world on 25 Aug 00:34 collapse

a black woman has no place in this world…

Wrong on this half, in that the factors of your birth & immutable traits or public opinion of those can’t prevent you from have a place here regardless of any opinions.

…you will have to work extra harder to overcome hate and other things…

You would know the answer from you past 41 yrs better than I would.

gedaliyah@lemmy.world on 24 Aug 23:46 next collapse

Bigotry has never been about ignorance. It has always been about manufacturing social division through propaganda.

TSG_Asmodeus@lemmy.world on 24 Aug 23:48 next collapse

This video is actually shockingly relevant right now, and does go through (some of) the ‘hows’ and ‘whys’.

Remember that tradwife/incel/etc shit is all just fascism boiled down into specifics. The Nazi’s sent women who wouldn’t marry to camps just as easily as Jewish people, gypsies, etc. We think of the Fascist movement as specifically anti-Jewish people, maybe throw in some gay people/etc, but Unionists, Communists, Socialists, and Women were targeted as well.

The reason it works is because it offers easy answers, and the average person has been made to be so lazy they’ll accept what they’re told, especially if they’re told everyone else is doing it. They aren’t a Nazi, they’re part of the Nazi’s.

We also have a huge backlog of emotional baggage for men post the 1980’s. At some point we all accepted that men wouldn’t show any emotions except anger, rage, frustration, etc, and then kept doubling down on it. Now you have groups of young men fed directly into a pipeline of Facebook/Youtube/whatever platform that spoon feeds them fascist garbage. Why? Because it makes them tame and easier to control. You notice fascists aren’t out there killing rich people, they’re killing minorities? That’s by design, because the wealthy know they’re fucked if young men turn that rage against them, the real perpetrators of said poor people’s suffering.

The wealthy love fascism, it gives them everything they want. They don’t see the poor people below them as human, so it’s all just a giant menagerie to them so they can have their Line Go Up Faster than the other rich people.

Don_Dickle@lemmy.world on 25 Aug 00:41 next collapse

Watched five minutes of it and bookmarked it. Thanks for the link

GrayBackgroundMusic@lemm.ee on 25 Aug 02:41 collapse

that YT link doesn’t need anything after the and-sign. www.youtube.com/watch?v=vGAqYNFQdZ4

TSG_Asmodeus@lemmy.world on 25 Aug 02:45 collapse

Removed everything after the ampersand, thank you. O7

Flax_vert@feddit.uk on 24 Aug 23:48 next collapse

Tiny peepee

giltwist@fedia.io on 24 Aug 23:51 next collapse

The core of the issue is the "Just World Fallacy" sometimes also called the "Prosperity Doctrine" and a few other things. It boils down to one core idea "Good things happen to good people, and bad things happen to bad people." Basically, everyone tends to think of themselves as, more-or-less, good people. So when bad things happen, as they inevitably do, these people start going "Huh, more bad stuff is happening to me than I've done bad things. WTF?" So, they come to a reasonable if flawed conclusion that "someone ELSE is doing bad things, and I'm collateral damage." This isn't entirely wrong, although sometimes bad things do just happen. However, since at least as far back as the Civil War (and probably since time immemorial), the people whose fault it REALLY is (i.e., the people with power and privelege) have pointed at outgroups, commonly immigrants but also slaves or Catholics or trans people, and said "THOSE people are being bad. THOSE people are why you are suffering. Give me more power and I'll get rid of THOSE people."

shalafi@lemmy.world on 25 Aug 02:42 collapse

Wow, well said and succinct, much love.

militaryintelligence@lemmy.world on 25 Aug 01:16 next collapse

I overheard my kids talking about whites being replaced, and saying the big N word. YouTube and the internet in general is a great recruitment tool. Yes, I talked to them.

mycodesucks@lemmy.world on 25 Aug 01:24 next collapse

Nazis and incels need to be dealt with, yes, but the important thing to keep in mind is they are symptomatic of suffering swaths of the population. People don’t just do hate because it’s fun.

We let big businesses and the rich steamroll entire communities and industries, pay lip service to helping people who’ve been damaged by capitalism, and then after the election cycles are over leave their communities to rot. They are desperate and turn to the wrong answers because there aren’t any others.

We allow entertainment and advertising to blast our society with a particular view of what relationship “success” is, and accept mockery of those who cannot thrive in that narrow definition due to social anxiety or other mental issues as fair game. Those men are desperate and turn to the wrong answers because there aren’t any others.

Yes, Nazis and incels are absolutely awful, hateful problems that must be dealt with. And by the time they reach that point, I’d argue they probably can’t be saved. But they don’t fall out of the sky. They come from normal people whose cries for help went unheard, sometimes for decades, or generations. They’re the product of systemic injustices that we can mitigate with outreach programs and getting serious about mitigating the social problems that create the soil they spring from. Stopping them is a necessary band-aid, but the real solution is to address the situations that allow them to thrive in the first place.

Don_Dickle@lemmy.world on 25 Aug 02:06 collapse

symptomatic

Still reading your post and came across the word symptomatic being used correctly and if I had a hat I would either tip it to you or say my hats off to you…no sarcasm.

mycodesucks@lemmy.world on 25 Aug 02:23 collapse

if I had a hat I would either tip it to you or say my hats off to you

Hat inequity… yet another social ill we need to address.

someguy3@lemmy.world on 25 Aug 01:53 next collapse

I think the basis of this is that it’s not about knowledge. It’s about emotion, and anger and hate are easy emotions.

Don_Dickle@lemmy.world on 25 Aug 02:00 collapse

See that is exactly what I don’t get. emotion, anger and hate requires effort and as a very lazy person it seems like a whole lot of effort misspent

someguy3@lemmy.world on 25 Aug 02:10 next collapse

Thinking, analyzing, and understanding are the hard ones. Emotion and hate require next to no effort, just some years of listening to Fox or Rush Limbaugh. They’ll tell you who to hate and be angry at.

And like I said, hate is an easy emotion to have. If anyone is trying to tap into it, you’re likely being manipulated.

GrayBackgroundMusic@lemm.ee on 25 Aug 02:40 collapse

emotion, anger and hate requires effort and as a very lazy person it seems like a whole lot of effort misspent

Not to me. Emotions just are. My parents taught me a lot of bigoted ways and those emotions just rise up. I had to argue with myself against those thought, after I moved out and grew up.

VelvetStorm@lemmy.world on 25 Aug 02:05 next collapse

Ok, so this is my time to admit my very shameful past. I used to be racist, homophobic, and sexist(known as the big 3). I used my religion as an excuse for the sexism and homophobia and my father(my mom isnt racist and they are divorced) and dam near everyone on his side of the family is racist so I just grew up in that culture. Once I stopped talking to him and met a lot of people from other races, i learned we are all the same. Then I stated reading the Bible, and once I did that, I obviously couldn’t continue believing in it. now I am an atheist and I don’t rely on a very very old book to come to my moral conclusions.

So basically, it’s willful ignorance, and it is always easier to blame others for your own downfalls, and it makes you feel better about your own shitty life if you can hate on someone else.

Edited for clarification.

TokenBoomer@lemmy.world on 25 Aug 02:16 next collapse

Good for you.

RubyRhod@lemm.ee on 25 Aug 02:31 collapse

Good for you.

I dunno it just made me think of that.

Jarix@lemmy.world on 25 Aug 02:18 next collapse

Then I stated reading the Bible, and once I did that, I obviously couldn’t continue believing it.

Yeah nothing obvious about that. Your religion is idiotic, all religions are lies made up by con artists or crazy people. You cant be trusted if you need some book assembled over a 600 year period, edited and abused by religious leaders to control and manipulate the masses into maintaining and increasing their own powerbase, to tell you right from wrong.

Religion is just the old world version of todays billionaires

RubyRhod@lemm.ee on 25 Aug 02:38 collapse

Couldn’t agree more. Fuck a safe space for insane blatherskite.

“willful ignorance” lol

Like I don’t wanna beat up on the guy but… fuckin hell.

VelvetStorm@lemmy.world on 25 Aug 02:49 next collapse

Ya, I was willfully ignorant for a while in my life, and then I started to actually practice critical thinking and developing a sound epistemology. I admitted I was wrong and took steps to change that. So what exactly is there to beat up on me about?

Jarix@lemmy.world on 25 Aug 02:49 collapse

Im glad they are a better person than they used to be, but that particular sentence made me laugh out loud

VelvetStorm@lemmy.world on 25 Aug 04:25 collapse

Question: does that sentence lead one to believe that reading the Bible made me think the Bible is against sexism and homophobia or does it lead you to believe that I am no longer religious because I read the bible?

Trigger2_2000@sh.itjust.works on 25 Aug 03:18 next collapse

I’m so glad you were able to see the light and thank you for having the courage to put it out there for others to see.

The most difficult faults to see and change are our own.

Laborer3652@reddthat.com on 25 Aug 03:34 next collapse

This is my story too. Leaving Christianity behind has been an amazing and humbling experience.

VelvetStorm@lemmy.world on 25 Aug 04:32 collapse

I can honestly say looking back idk if I ever really believed in it. I think I was just using it as an excuse to hate people while feeling morally superior.

captainlezbian@lemmy.world on 25 Aug 13:37 next collapse

I think that’s a lot of people in it. Moral superiority feels really good and hating others is a convenient way to avoid dealing with however you feel about yourself

Laborer3652@reddthat.com on 26 Aug 13:44 collapse

I definitely did, and thats what made leaving so hard. I trusted the people around me, and they were telling me all kinds of things, so of course it is true. The indoctrination starts before critical thinking develops, so its just built into the firmware of your brain, you know?

kent_eh@lemmy.ca on 25 Aug 13:47 collapse

I used my religion as an excuse for the sexism and homophobia

I’m my experience that is extremely common.

BaldManGoomba@lemmy.world on 25 Aug 04:06 next collapse

This youtube series is a great way to show how someone gets inundated and can turn youtube.com/playlist?list=PLJA_jUddXvY7v0VkYRbANn…

But here is somethings I noticed from my journey out of the right wing from my high school days.

First we were religious and we choose good decisions and other people’s choices were unwise and their fault but even though we lived in the same projects, our choices and how we lived their was unfortunate and their’s was their fault. It wasn’t explicit racism it was culture of racism. We were scared because we didn’t understand and thought we were superior since we were trying. Then we got better off and were in church more we got inundated with right wing propaganda on the economy and Frieman econmics blaming the government and socialism. We wanted to protect our jobs and our jobs blamed the government why they had to end manufacturing jobs in America. I graduated high school in 2010. I saw hatred towards Obama and noticed my side was with the KKK and I questioned it. That is how I got out. But if I kept to my beliefs I would have hated black people and others more. Thinking I was superior as a WASP (White Anglo Saxon protestant) since I made good decisions. My parents told me I could work through college and buy a house and everything and not to take out debt. So I tried that. It was impossible.

I blamed myself for not being good enough but I also didn’t do it right because I was testing it out and not using and abusing my connections. Which is how you get ahead. When I figured out I wasn’t enough and started to work with the people I know I was able to do more. But I could have blamed DEI stuff why I couldn’t get into college or get better jobs. But it was I just wasn’t good enough and the market is barren in Delaware.

My few relationships break ups I could have blamed it all on women and got a negative attitude with that too. Also since I was raised in the church a bit I could have said they should be a trad wife. But bleh

Back to being a Wasp. I could have blamed my failures and society failures on racist things or the color of my skin but I was lucky to realize it was the rich who fucked us all and the governments fault for letting it happen.

ClassifiedPancake@discuss.tchncs.de on 25 Aug 05:28 next collapse

Blaming others for things going wrong doesn’t require thinking and being self reflecting.

saltesc@lemmy.world on 25 Aug 05:48 next collapse

A lot of it comes from experiences they’ve had.

Thorny_Insight@lemm.ee on 25 Aug 05:53 next collapse

Incel = involuntary celibate

You become one by not being able to find a life partner or even a one night stand. Not something I’d really blame the individual for.

Don_Dickle@lemmy.world on 25 Aug 14:20 collapse

While I think incel’s maybe everywhere is there not some online hookups or at least prostitues that can pacify them?

Thorny_Insight@lemm.ee on 25 Aug 14:33 collapse

Possibly yes but that doesn’t help if one is morbidly afraid of approaching women for example.

However my point was that it’s a bit pointless to ask why would someone become something when by definition it’s involuntary. It’s like asking why would anyone be under 6ft tall.

Moah@lemmy.blahaj.zone on 25 Aug 05:53 next collapse

They get a community that supports and enables then out of it.

Avanera@sh.itjust.works on 25 Aug 06:14 next collapse

I was raised in a left-leaning, progressive, atheist, LGBTQ+/minority-accepting household, but one surrounded by a white, largely conservative exurban community. I was raised to be inclusive of others, to be thoughtful, to be curious, to be polite and empathetic. I had good* parents who supported me, and taught me to treat others well.

In the middle of fifth grade, I transferred to a magnet program focusing on STEM concepts. It took me from a school that was almost entirely white, to a school which was very much multi-racial. I was really small for my age, nerdy, and the new kid. I’d always been bullied at school, but after the transfer it got a lot worse, and got pretty severely physical. A lot of the people who harassed me the worst were black. I honestly never understood the social circles enough to know what their deal was, and it certainly wasn’t only a race thing, but the fact that many of my tormentors were black wasn’t lost on me, to be sure.

When I was 11 or so, I used all the savings from a lifetime of cumulative birthdays, Christmas gifts, etc. to buy a laptop to play games on. Pretty quickly, gaming became all I did. It was an escape, and I enjoyed it. I played whatever F2P games I could. Diablo clones, random MMOs, shitty pay-to-win FPS games, whatever. My parents didn’t supervise my activities very closely, and to be blunt, I quickly became way more savvy than them about subverting any surveillance they tried to put in place anyways.

Eventually I started looking into hacks for games. I found a really large forum (think 25k members) for sharing game hacks, and joined up. By the time I was maybe 13-14 or so, I was one of the highest-ranking moderators on the forum. I hung out in their IRC server (which definitely isn’t the internet chat-rooms you’re supposed to be careful about, those are different) all day, dabbled in making my own (occasionally illicit) software and hacks, and was firmly in the community. These weren’t good people, but I didn’t know that. When I got home from school and got online, they asked me how my day was. They cared about me, they played games with me, they were my friends. I remember I was gone for like 2 weeks when I was seriously ill, and one of them tracked me down and called my house to check in on me. I didn’t think anything of it, because of course they could do that. I’d been in a Skype call with one of them who was screen sharing the array of webcams they had access to through their botnet. I didn’t realize at the time that they were probably blackmailing people, or holding their data ransom. We just hacked in video games, none of that actually serious stuff. The malware I was toying with was just because I was interested in it, and of course, my friends must have been too, right? Just a learning exercise. I figured I might try to go into cybersecurity when I started high school and could actually start taking courses in computer topics. Programming was SO fucking interesting!

My parents didn’t know what was going on. They should have. I was barely a teenager, I can’t possibly have been hiding my tracks all that well. But then, their marriage had started to fall apart, and things were bad a home. I didn’t know anything about that then, I was in my room gaming and running communities for terrible people. The headset kept their fighting far away from me. My parents didn’t know who I was hanging out with. They had raised me well, but now they weren’t doing what they should have been. So when my friends shared hateful content with me, “interesting” videos they’d found about how terrible women were, how violent minorities were, who was I to question it? They were speaking as those with knowledge. They taught me stuff, they knew better than me. And besides, I’d been physically harassed by black people before. I’d seen it for myself, right? My U.S. history teacher was REALLY smart, and she told us (in a MN classroom) that the civil war wasn’t actually about slavery either! That was super interesting to learn! And the women they complained about weren’t me. Just because a lot of the guys I hung out with had bitches for girlfriends didn’t mean they hated women, it was just bad luck with shitty women. Right?

I was a good person. I mean, I was a weird socially outcast nerd, but I wasn’t a bad person. My family was still caring. Still accepting. My Mom’s apartment was always a refuge for any of our friends, even (and especially) the queer ones who had been kicked out by their own terrible parents. They had a place to come and be safe and be themselves with us. So I was a good person too, right? Good people, smart people, they keep their online lives separate from their personal lives. They don’t talk about their online activities with others, and they don’t talk about their personal information with internet strangers in chatrooms. The o

ADTJ@feddit.uk on 25 Aug 07:13 next collapse

That was quite a read.

Thanks for sharing.

khannie@lemmy.world on 25 Aug 07:19 next collapse

Some days, I even think maybe I might be a good person too

You sound like a good person to me. That level of self reflection rarely / never leads to being a shithead in my experience.

Crazy story but a very interesting read. Thanks for sharing.

Avanera@sh.itjust.works on 25 Aug 18:04 collapse

Thank you, I appreciate it.

Godric@lemmy.world on 25 Aug 07:32 next collapse

You know how they say “Show, not tell” when writing? Excellent job mate, thanks for it

Avanera@sh.itjust.works on 25 Aug 18:07 collapse

I’m glad you appreciated it! I think I can forgive the subtle jab xD

gravitas_deficiency@sh.itjust.works on 25 Aug 17:31 next collapse

Genuinely, thanks for sharing your experience. I don’t think most people realize how insidiously easy it is to slowly slide down that path. I’m very glad to hear that you’re moving in a better direction these days.

Great writing style too, for what it’s worth.

SeedyOne@lemm.ee on 25 Aug 17:54 collapse

This is a fantastic read and a great explanation of how this can happen. You’ve come a long way and made it out the other side.

Azzu@lemm.ee on 25 Aug 06:54 next collapse

Short answer: it’s basic human nature if you don’t specifically work against it. Many people work against it, but not everyone. The ones that do not work against it mostly don’t because the environment they grew up in doesn’t do this, so they never started working against it. Later in life it’s difficult to change and admit you were wrong.

Duke_Nukem_1990@feddit.org on 25 Aug 07:29 collapse

Hating other people is not basic human nature. It’s learned behavior.

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Azzu@lemm.ee on 25 Aug 11:28 collapse

I mean the specifics like who you hate, in what way, is learned, but the hate itself is basic. You can’t tell me hate isn’t one of the most basic human emotions.

sumguyonline@lemmy.world on 25 Aug 07:54 next collapse

Wiccans name men incels, the name itself, involuntary celibate indicates they are there of some one else’s doing. They do this to ugly men, quiet men, and men they see as a threat. So why do you think they made themselves some thing involuntarily through not having knowledge? Are you trolling, or genuinely confused how the wiccan rape cult has destroyed society? Or are you just looking to attack men you think are less than you? Word matter, so how does a shy or fat guy deserve to be incels for how they look or act? Or do you not care about your victims? This misandrist sexism you’re pushing is tired and out of date, it’s literally what broke society. You need to rethink your entire thesis on society, because you’re deadly wrong, and society is changing with or without YOU.

The wiccan rape cult also finds its roots in Nazism as it came here after the fall of Germany. Men aren’t the problem, but if you feel they are, you’re definitely part of the problem.

SSJMarx@lemm.ee on 25 Aug 08:09 next collapse

the wiccan rape cult

I think you might be schizophrenic. Seek help.

loudWaterEnjoyer@lemmy.dbzer0.com on 25 Aug 09:04 next collapse

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flerp@lemm.ee on 25 Aug 22:18 next collapse

There’s a difference between someone who is an incel and someone who would like to, but can’t find someone to have sex with. It’s like how all squares are rectangles but not all rectangles are squares. Not all people who can’t find someone to have sex with are incels even if they are technically involuntarily celibate. There is a lot more that goes along with the incel community than JUST involuntary celibacy.

A shy or fat guy who can’t find someone to sleep with might not classify as an incel for example, but someone who thinks like your comment very much does.

BaumGeist@lemmy.ml on 26 Aug 01:11 collapse

If you think not having sex is so terrible it’s basically torture, the problem isn’t that you haven’t had sex. It really isn’t that great, and you need to stop idolizing these things

What you’re actually missing, and misinterpreting as “sex will fix me” is genuine human connection, and that is a skill that takes a loooot of practice, mistakes, heartache, and even at times, being “cringe.”

But it’s easier to think that sex is some magical experience that a secret organization is denying you.

feedum_sneedson@lemmy.world on 25 Aug 08:38 next collapse

You become an incel by not getting laid.

klisurovi4@midwest.social on 25 Aug 08:48 next collapse

That plus being an ass in general I’d say. I’m 25, haven’t ever gotten laid and struggle with loneliness all the time, but still don’t think all women are sluts and are obligated to fuck me.

feedum_sneedson@lemmy.world on 25 Aug 09:07 collapse

You’re right inasmuch as the meaning shifted to include all the misogyny etc. I still have sympathy for people who can’t get laid.

SeattleRain@lemmy.world on 25 Aug 09:09 collapse

Yeah, being an incel isn’t an ideology. It’s a material condition.

olafurp@lemmy.world on 25 Aug 09:45 next collapse

If you want something to be true and feel as if it’s true then you’re likely to believe it’s true.

Facts usually don’t change people’s mind and might make them defensive about their views because if they’re wrong it will hurt them personally in the ego and self esteem.

I can fully see how something like feeling superior can fit into that. This includes others being inferior as a corollary.

Then you mix in anger. You are angry and stressed about the current situation and then somebody that speaks well and is smarter than you in your opinion says “blame immigrants”.

This fits in the world view.

Then you can go online and see other people and they say “Nazis didn’t have this problem because they fixed it”. So you in your newfound and knowledge go out and tell people unapologetically and if anybody inferior, that makes you angry, says anything bad things can happen.

There’s a path to become a Nazi. I think people don’t intend to be bad, they care about people, Nazis don’t think everyone should count as people. It’s societal cancer.

TheBananaKing@lemmy.world on 25 Aug 10:49 next collapse

When you hollow out the middle class (in the US sense of the term), people go looking for a narrative to explain it, to give them a reason they don’t get (or can’t give their children) the lifestyle they were promised in the media.

One narrative that fits is corporate greed, late-stage capitalism, enshittification and staggering corruption.

Another narrative, however, is all this rampant social change going on, people changing the demographics, changing the rules, changing definitions, changing the comfortable rules of thumb they were used to - and now everything’s shit, the two must be connected, we need to slam the brakes and catch our breath, perhaps even go backwards, and maybe conditions will follow suit. Even if they don’t, change is a loss of control, and that’s scary. We need to pull our heads in, hunker down and take back what’s rightfully ours from those we’ve been forced to share it with.

Once people start looking through that lens, everything starts self-selecting to fit - and they start thinking yeah, maybe those guys had a point.

Yes, there’s horrible shitty filter bubbles on social media and 4chan and everything else, but this stuff doesn’t take root without the underlying socioeconomic issues driving it.

As for incels - I don’t think people realise just how much social privilege is involved in having a peer group during childhood and adolescence to develop the give and take of social skills necessary for actually courting a partner. Consider the weird kids, the fat kids, the (disproportionally) poor kids, the ones with a fucked up home life, who didn’t get to form stable relationships, who didn’t get the practice at human-wrangling, who maybe ended up in a socially-isolating job, who had no ‘third place’ to hang out with people, to socialise and to meet people they might be interested in.

And once people start out without social skills, it can be really hard to pick them up; the embarrassment and exclusion that can follow small fuckups get exponentially worse as time goes on. And you don’t have to be painfully awkward, you just have to… not have game. Just enough to kick you to the bottom of the rankings, so failure (or the likelihood thereof) stacks up and becomes progressively discouraging, so you don’t try and don’t get practice.

And then it’s the same situation: the world doesn’t work for them the way they were told it would; they do all the things that they’ve heard were supposed to work (but without any of the nuance needed to do it successfully), and it just doesn’t.

For some of them, they feel like they’re getting singled out to get ripped off, or that the whole damn system is rigged; it’s a big club and they aren’t in it, as it were. So they look for a narrative, they look for someone to blame, they look for the bad guy, they look for a coherent explanation of why they’re the victim here. And of course that spirals out of control and ends up in a very bad place.

Rhynoplaz@lemmy.world on 25 Aug 12:35 next collapse

Fantastic summary! Thank you!

avattar@lemmy.sdf.org on 25 Aug 13:39 collapse

It makes a lot of sense when you put in like that, and makes me feel like helping people instead of ignoring/hating/looking down on them. How did you get these insights? Are you in the field of psychology?

TheBananaKing@lemmy.world on 25 Aug 14:09 next collapse

Nah, I’m just old - and I was the weird homeschooled kid; there but for sheer blind undeserved luck go I.

TheBananaKing@lemmy.world on 25 Aug 14:44 next collapse

As for helping - I think that once they get far enough down the path, there’s probably not much you can do for them. But compassion is always a good thing no matter who you spend it on.

As is sparing a thought for the poorly-socialised, and for the lack of opportunities people have to just hang out in any kind of casual social setting, if you’re not already part of a friend group.

Someone works a shit job in a dingy office with three people they hate and no general public flowing through, they’re exhausted at the end of the day and even if they had a place to go they just want to go home. Weekends are for laundry and chores and recovering from the week - and besides, what are they going to do, head to some bar and spend all their money drinking alone, just getting aloner?

Most of the opportunities out there rely on having either a pre-existing set of people to hang out with, or enough acquired charisma that they wouldn’t be in that situation in the first place.

Our society really needs to lower the barrier to entry for this stuff, but I have no idea how you’d go about that.

SwingingTheLamp@midwest.social on 26 Aug 14:49 collapse

Our society really needs to lower the barrier to entry for this stuff, but I have no idea how you’d go about that.

I know. At least in the US. It sounds wonky, but think it through: Cars and zoning law. Between the two of those things, there are fewer and fewer third places. There’s nowhere to go to just be around other people. First (home) and second (edit: work) are incredibly isolated, too. You get in the car and pull out of the garage, and interact with nobody until you pull in to the lot at work. At best, you interact briefly with fast food workers for a few seconds at the drive-thru window. There’s no “local,” no stores, no restaurants, no cafés in the neighborhood; you drive to those. They draw from a large area, so you never see the same people twice there.

Proximity has always been the best builder of community in human history, and we’ve done away with it.

chilicheeselies@lemmy.world on 25 Aug 15:00 collapse

A little empathy goes a long way. There are some truely shit evil people in the world, but most people are good people who werent given the same chances, lost their way, etc.

TranquilTurbulence@lemmy.zip on 25 Aug 10:55 next collapse

Humanity has this default setting where tribalism = TRUE, and social media gives you a place where you can form new tribes around anything and everything all of the time. As a matter of fact, it tends to encourage modern day tribalism. Why do you think antivaxxers and flat earth are a thing. In ancient times that sort of behavior was confined to the house of the local village idiot.

GladiusB@lemmy.world on 25 Aug 11:01 next collapse

Their evidence isn’t your evidence. Your curation of facts are never the same as anyone else’s. How you interpret these facts are reinforced by your family or friends. If you don’t have either you find community where you can. Rinse. Wash. Repeat.

This is the same for many communities. Where a person finds themselves isn’t necessarily malicious. They are protecting what they value and think is what makes them unique. That is what makes them dangerous. It’s all they have.

Duamerthrax@lemmy.world on 25 Aug 11:26 next collapse

Because they provided simple answers to complex problems. Doesn’t matter if the answers are wrong. If a government is providing the simple answers, it’s because they don’t want to solve the problems for whatever reason.

blarth@thelemmy.club on 25 Aug 13:44 next collapse

Well, you see, it all started with Steve Bannon playing World of Warcraft…

ulkesh@lemmy.world on 25 Aug 14:30 next collapse

In case it wasn’t a typo, and just to help OP for the future…

It’s “this day and age,” not “this day in age.”

I know I’ll probably get downvoted for the pedantry here especially since everyone understands what was meant, but hopefully OP will appreciate the information about the common phrase.

Also to answer the OP’s question: inferiority complex. It runs rampant in society, especially among men.

xigoi@lemmy.sdf.org on 25 Aug 14:45 next collapse

As someone who used to visit incel communities (though I never supported the misogynist views), I think a lot of the appeal comes from the fact that they seem to be the only support groups for lonely men. Why aren’t there any non-toxic ones?

abcdqfr@lemmy.world on 25 Aug 14:48 next collapse

The preferred alternative is a healthy relationship after enough therapy, the latter being a [pay]wall for some

xigoi@lemmy.sdf.org on 26 Aug 13:32 collapse

There are more straight men who want a partner than women, so someone will be inevitably left out no matter the amount of therapy.

hightrix@lemmy.world on 25 Aug 15:36 collapse

Few exist, but they do exist.

The issue is that many times in the past when men have tried to creat men only groups, they get called sexist and forced to open the group.

Men aren’t allowed to discuss their issues (men’s rights discussion is seen as hate), they aren’t allowed to discuss that they aren’t allowed to discuss men’s issues ( this is seen as hate ). Because men are seen as privileged.

I fully expect hate for this comment and I won’t engage.

Jiggle_Physics@lemmy.world on 25 Aug 16:49 collapse

The biggest reason support groups for men aren’t well supported, is due to men enforcing the ideas of stoic machismo onto men. This leads to numerous things, one is a lack of support for men who are struggling, failing, lonely, whatever. Men aren’t allowed to discuss their feelings because men have created a society that looks at them as losers for doing so. This is, very slowly, changing though.

The problem with a lot of men’s right advocacy is that is really does end up being misogynist. Most men’s right spaces I have encountered want to blame women for being lonely, for failing to make a family, etc. Meanwhile it is men that have had the primary hand in creating society, and it has been that way for thousands of years. We can’t really affect change if we don’t recognize that this is a bed that we made. If we are not happy lying in it, then we need to change, not women. I am also saying not saying women are just perfectly fine. Clearly everyone can have serious negative issues due to life. However, as it stands, the problems we believe are brought on by society, are the constructs of men.

MellowYellow13@lemmy.world on 25 Aug 17:31 next collapse

And women spaces are allowed to blame men but they dont get closed

Jiggle_Physics@lemmy.world on 25 Aug 17:38 collapse

Yes, there are instances where men’s support groups have shut down, due to misogyny, and there are women’s support groups that did not, despite being misandrists. Guess who is the primary factor in the creation of this society in which this happens?

MellowYellow13@lemmy.world on 25 Aug 17:44 next collapse

You missed it lol

Jiggle_Physics@lemmy.world on 25 Aug 17:52 collapse

Then correct my aim.

drunkpostdisaster@lemmy.world on 25 Aug 18:25 collapse

It’s leftist groups that shut them down. Not defending the right, but that is what it is.

Jiggle_Physics@lemmy.world on 25 Aug 18:32 collapse

Can you give me specific instances so that I may scrutinize the situations?

drunkpostdisaster@lemmy.world on 25 Aug 18:41 collapse

Mens shelters for one. They got shut down for being anti feminist in my country at least. Shut down is kind of the wrong term. Maybe pushed out or gate kept? Please don’t think this me trying to get out of the conversation I just don’t have the words to describe my views. And I am exhausted from arguing with Republicans kn Facebook

Jiggle_Physics@lemmy.world on 25 Aug 19:03 collapse

I just wanted specified examples so that I could look them up.

In the city I used to live in, in the early 2000s, there was a big thing when a video of a men’s support group, for mental health, came out where the organizer was on a very misogynistic rant. This place also had limited shelter for men who were homeless due to things like divorce. Soon after it got shut down. Not long after that, a video of a women’s support group, for rape victims, came out, and it had members there going on similar rants towards men. So there was a heap of shit about it, and that group lost the lease to the space they used, and no one else would let them in. It was very much pushed as “you shut down the men, you need to shut down the women” thing.

Few months later the guy on the tape, along with like 1/3 of the people associated with that group, at that time, were indicted for a variety of crimes. Namely the organized stalking, and harassment of women. Mostly ex’s of the members, but some others for different reasons. Most of them were convicted. This is why it was shut down. Not because of the tape. So the women’s support group was targeted, and pushed out, because people believe they were getting quid pro quo for the men’s group. Only for it to show it was organized, criminal, behavior that got it shut down, not their misogyny. So, in the end, these women lost their space because of a far lesser wrong, in the name of equality.

Also, I hear a lot about how men’s online spaces are shut down more than women’s. Both being bigoted towards the other. However, when I looked into the post discussing them getting shut-down it was always because they were doing something extra, like brigading other places, stalking, and harassing, other women on the site, and posting lots of public calls for illegal activities. They generally given more than one chance to snuff that shit out too, they just didn’t. Where as most of the awful femcel kinda places either didn’t that far, didn’t organize like that on their space, or were warned and then the mods started shutting that shit down.

So I always have my suspicions with this topic. Not that it hasn’t happened, as you say, but, the majority I have seen, weren’t shutdown for such simple reasons. Though they all had people crying about how they got shut down for misogyny, yet x place with femcels didn’t.

drunkpostdisaster@lemmy.world on 25 Aug 19:29 collapse

Yeah, but liberals should know better. And also brigadkmg is a problem all around reddit it’s not exclusively men

And slightly related I think there is a lot of misandry in conservativism that the left refuses talk about for some reason

Jiggle_Physics@lemmy.world on 25 Aug 23:00 collapse

There is a lot of misandry in conservatism, and liberalism, and leftism. However, the root for it differs from conservatism, and the other two position. While it isn’t a huge talking point, I wouldn’t say it is not something that is really ignored. Maybe it is so in “pop” leftist media? Like breadtube type stuff?

I wasn’t trying to imply that men’s spaces, on various fora, were the only ones with bad behavior. I was pointing out that, when a lot of these places were shut down, a lot of them cried misandry because x misandrist forum is still up. However, when you look at the situation, it wasn’t the misogynistic conversation that got them banned, it was the actions they coordinated on their fora. I have also seen a number of misandrist spaces get shut down too. Again though, it was because they refused to stop bad actions on their forum, and moderate it out.

Yes liberals, and leftists, should know better. Unfortunately you are broaching a subject with A LOT of strong emotional value to it. It is awful that there are, practically, no support groups for male victims of rape, and, even though there is often no indicator it is only for women, they are pushed out of those places because a lot of those women, straight up, are afraid of men. Men have traumatized them to the point where they cannot feel safe around them, and/or get a visceral reaction to a strange man being there. And yes, there is a lot of resentment in these communities towards men. They are mentally, and often physically, scarred by the actions of men. It isn’t fair, but these emotions, trauma responses, etc. are not rational. They are real though, and they are exceedingly difficult to deal with. It is actually very difficult for them to truly view men as, mostly, decent human beings, because of trauma. Especially so because men are responsible for damn near all sexual violence, and homicide.

This isn’t easy. There are no clear ways to deal with this situation. However, men are the root cause of most of it. As you have pointed out, the men higher on the hierarchy are incentivized, in many ways, to maintain this status quo. That is a class conflict situation, between those lower on the hierarchy, and the men who are in control. As more women come into power, both in government, and in the commercial/industrial world, things will change. Exactly how is yet to be seen.

drunkpostdisaster@lemmy.world on 26 Aug 05:23 collapse

So if we are yhe problem why try?

Jiggle_Physics@lemmy.world on 26 Aug 10:38 collapse

Are you trying to say that it is impossible to change?

drunkpostdisaster@lemmy.world on 26 Aug 20:04 collapse

Not with the way we are going about it.

lightnsfw@reddthat.com on 25 Aug 18:28 next collapse

We can’t really affect change if we don’t recognize that this is a bed that we made.

The problem is the men that are struggling generally aren’t the same men that made the bed.

Jiggle_Physics@lemmy.world on 25 Aug 18:31 collapse

Obviously, however that doesn’t make it not a problem with men. We still need a collective introspection, and course correction.

lightnsfw@reddthat.com on 25 Aug 18:45 collapse

How do you propose we bring this change about about? The one’s who need to do it have no incentive. The rest of us can sit and think about things and blame ourselves for being men all we want but it won’t change anything. I can encourage and support my peers all day long but it won’t help them be more successful in life or get women to like them romantically because I have no social capital either.

Jiggle_Physics@lemmy.world on 25 Aug 19:23 collapse

You have to blame the men in charge, but also yourself, your upbringing, and realize you need to work on personal betterment just as much as trying to help other men. Real help, not just creating safe spaces to bitch about chads, and hate on women. Simply creating a place to support men, with actual counseling in mind, that diverts from just blaming women, will actually make things better, demographically. This social capital idea you have isn’t the all encompassing thing you think it is. I have seen very meh looking men, who were fucking homeless, and jobless, in relationships with women. Having support groups, that are just not echo chambers of hate, and instead are implementing counseling methods, that certified people use, that you have researched yourself (do not call yourself a councilor, or claim any professional expertise, diagnosis, etc. just offer as help, man to man, with the increased knowledge) will, broadly, increase other men’s sense of self. This will increase their personal confidence. This will lead to personal betterment. Then you push to branch out.

The idea that men need serious fucking help is already out there. Has been for a good while. It is slowly manifesting into society being more accepting of seeking mental health care, men processing their emotions, etc. Like I said, it is slow, but it is happening. If you are so inclined, do real research into the problems men face in society, like academic research, there is a lot out there to read through, and write a book. Maybe start a podcast, or YT channel. Sure you might not get anywere, but you got stuff out there, in the collective space, for others to see. Which is orders of magnitude more than any MRA, redpill, or incel community has done. Those communities just make the situation worse. They blame women, and even when they discuss men in power enforcing this, they just go “well this is a monumental task to change. Instead I will just stew, in this toxic echo chamber.” While they are just making people advocating for reform for the betterment of men look bad. Look for people who want to publicly advocate reform. From the soap box, and maybe, eventually, to the larger public domain.

lightnsfw@reddthat.com on 26 Aug 18:03 collapse

I do work on personal betterment quite a lot and encourage my peers to do so. As for the rest of it, how can I start a support group or YouTube channel if no one gives a shit about me or what I have to say? No one with the power to actually make changes will listen to me. The rest already know change needs to happen but can’t do anything either so it would just turn into another echo chamber. Yes, a more positive one but still an echo chamber.

Jiggle_Physics@lemmy.world on 26 Aug 19:34 collapse

Have you ever petitioned your local legislators, or even contacted them? That is a starting point. You also search out what political initiatives are local to you, what political organizations are, and you look for ones already working for things that would benefit men. Things like groups pushing for better coverage of mental health care, groups that work to get popular media to discuss mental health, and work for better media representation of mental health care. There are plenty of these, and if none seem to be working for men’s interests, since you joined, you now have a opening to present data to get them to do so, etc. Everyone who wasn’t already a public figure, when the went on youtube, was in the same position. You could look for youtubers who are already doing just this, like for real, and not just grifting manosphere stuff, and push their channel to places.
Fuck, find channels that discuss mens’ issues, and mental health, in a real way, and go push them in manosphere places.

There is a lot you can. You have to take the initiative, you have to figure out what is out there, you have to figure out how to interact with them, etc. It’s not easy.

damnedfurry@lemmy.world on 26 Aug 00:55 collapse

(emphasis added)

Men aren’t allowed to discuss their feelings because men have created a society that looks at them as losers for doing so.

The implication here, that societal norms are created and maintained by only men, and therefore any aspects of it that affect men negatively deserve to be blamed on them, is one of the most pervasive anti-male sentiments that people try to fly under the radar with. Women have at least as much (arguably more) influence on societal norms and conventions, as men do.

This entire comment is teeming with this undertone; that is, until the end, when they come out and just say ‘all the bad stuff is men’s fault’ at the end, lol.

Jiggle_Physics@lemmy.world on 26 Aug 01:30 collapse

I didn’t say only by men, there is more comments for context to that statement you are leaving out, I said men have had most of the control through out history, so they have, by far, the greatest influence

Aceticon@lemmy.world on 25 Aug 15:20 next collapse

People don’t actually guide themselves by Logic.

In fact they undermine their own logical thinking abilities, especially by seeking only that information which confirms that which they already believe in (because it makes them feel to good to “be right”) and avoid or deny that information which disproves that which they believe in (because it makes them feel bad to “be wrong”).

Even very intelligent people will reach the dumbest of conclusions because of how their own emotions control the inputs to their thinking, the kind of things they think about and even which conclusions they immediately accept without challenge and which they actively try and disprove.

Also add to this that only a small number of people are familiar with the practices of Analytical Thinking (such as used in Science) so are prone to falling for all manner of fallacies and observer cognitive errors (stuff like how one spots mostly that which happens, not the absence of things that should be happening, how others react to one’s own non-verbal cues and shape their responses to one’s expectations and other such things affecting what one observes and which led to things like Science have double-blind experiments).

Don_Dickle@lemmy.world on 25 Aug 15:34 collapse

Its weird that you mention a need to be right. As a nurse we are taught to question everything and anything but when it comes to doctors we are suppose to keep our mouth shut. I took a semester on drug abuse and signs as an elective and you would be surprised on how many doctors who operate or diagnose patient look and act or exhbit the behavior of a drug addict.

Aceticon@lemmy.world on 25 Aug 16:32 collapse

Yeah, that’s the thing: the things commonly associated with logic and careful thinking such as Formal Education (even in STEM domains) or Intelligence are no defense against one’s emotional needs, wants and fears.

As I’ve said more than once: no matter how Intelligent a person is, their Subconscious is just as Intelligent and hence just as capable of subverting their Conscious mind.

Knowledge and Wisdom are two very different things.

istanbullu@lemmy.ml on 25 Aug 15:40 next collapse

Incels are the easiest to understand. Some people are just unattractive.

Daxtron2@startrek.website on 25 Aug 16:10 next collapse

Nah there’s plenty of unattractive people in relationships that aren’t total assholes.

Smoogs@lemmy.world on 25 Aug 16:29 next collapse

look at the original poster boy of incel: Roger Elliot. he was physically attractive, well groomed, from decent money, clearly looked after himself but was one of the most unattractive personalities and complained he was constantly rejected.

You can still be well groomed and the biggest incel. that’s often their complaint against women. They are relying on getting by on looks alone and then complain about getting nothing because they overlooked women are deeper than that. They don’t wanna work on themselves. Easier to blame the women or society or feminism etc.

There are plenty of men who don’t even have half the physical attractiveness of Roger Elliot and far more well adjusted.

Crikeste@lemm.ee on 25 Aug 18:28 collapse

I guess maybe you could consider people’s personalities ‘unattractive’, but your phrasing comes across as abrasive at best in a NoStupidQuestions thread.

Going off your comment at face value: there are plenty of attractive people who are lonely. It could be due to all sorts of different factors. Things right now are pretty tough; mentally, physically and economically. A lot of people are struggling. And for men, that can manifest in things women see as ‘red flags’. And that only furthers the isolationism, which begins to fester and cause hateful feelings.

Because yeah, some of it is genuinely out of people’s hands.

I don’t feel like THAT is hard to understand at all.

NutWrench@lemmy.world on 25 Aug 16:27 next collapse

I grew up watching WW2 movies and the Nazis were never shown as being anything other than Bad Guys. I would love to know how anyone grows up here in the U.S. and doesn’t know that.

Linkerbaan@lemmy.world on 25 Aug 16:45 next collapse

To see Nazis being presented as the good guys just turn on the DNC stream.

MellowYellow13@lemmy.world on 25 Aug 17:30 next collapse

for starters they dont even know they are Nazis

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lol calm down John, yes they are

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FlyingSquid@lemmy.world on 26 Aug 09:36 collapse

As a Jewish person (I assume you are not with a name like McMurray), no it hasn’t. The people being called Nazis on America’s very fine people right have made no secret of their extreme antisemitism and would have no problem throwing me in a camp.

theguardian.com/…/charlottesville-neo-nazis-vice-…

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Crikeste@lemm.ee on 25 Aug 18:16 collapse

I think there are enough similarities for people to properly connect the two.

John_McMurray@lemmy.ca on 25 Aug 23:33 collapse

Yeah it devalues the horror of genocide calling a person critical of mass immigration the same fucking thing.

Crikeste@lemm.ee on 26 Aug 22:03 collapse

Trump supporters aren’t only critical of mass immigration. Go look at the second paragraph of the Nazism Wikipedia page. You’ll find those beliefs overlap quite a few times with American conservatives.

Quit being dense for no reason.

John_McMurray@lemmy.ca on 26 Aug 22:26 collapse

Hitler had ideas that overlap with Buddhism, PETA and myriad other groups, that is completely irrelevant.

Crikeste@lemm.ee on 25 Aug 18:09 collapse

<img alt="" src="https://lemm.ee/pictrs/image/3cca73a9-e087-4c2d-86b4-cc6fb7768a02.jpeg">

This was taken in Madison Square Garden in 1939.

Henry Ford was given the Grand Cross of The German Eagle by Hitler.

Americans were far more Nazi than history books might have you believe.

Hell, Hitler called America’s genocide of the natives “the first great cleansing”. It was the model.

Linkerbaan@lemmy.world on 25 Aug 16:47 next collapse

People just want an easy scapegoat, and there are many parties willing to sell them one.

Knowledge against racism has existed for millennia. Time is a flat circle.

BlucifersVeinyAnus@sh.itjust.works on 25 Aug 17:08 next collapse

It’s a temper tantrum turned into a personality.

Jiggle_Physics@lemmy.world on 25 Aug 17:35 next collapse

People become lonely, disaffected, and negative towards the world they live in. They then reach out to other communities, and due to one thing, or another, primarily their personality, they don’t get accepted. However, communities based around hate will gladly take them in, as long as they fit a profile they are looking for.

"Are you a young, white, male, that is dissatisfied with their life, and the world? Well, we accept you here. These things are not your fault, it is the fault of others. You aren’t the reason you cannot get a relationship with a women, it is the women who are fault for this. The reason it is so hard to get a good paying job? Immigrants. Why is housing so expensive, and hard to get, at least anywhere with a large enough job market to really advance somewhere? The Jews. Why can’t you rise on the corporate ladder where you work? Progressive policies… also jews, and immigrants. You are a white man, you should be rightfully at the top of the hierarchy. Women should be given, by their fathers, to men, on a mutually beneficial, transactional, basis. Women should submit to your authority. "

Or, in the case of incels “Are you depressed? Have no friends? No social life? No relationship with a woman? Are you an adult virgin, loser? Well that is because women are evil. We will accept you, unlike the evil female species.”

Don_Dickle@lemmy.world on 25 Aug 17:54 next collapse

So in that thought women are prostitues? Because a beneficial transaction?

Jiggle_Physics@lemmy.world on 25 Aug 17:57 collapse

Not prostitutes. A lot of these groups believe we need to go back to when women were literally their property. You got a women because it created bonds within the community, and they often paid you to take her.

Don_Dickle@lemmy.world on 25 Aug 18:21 collapse

As I don’t believe in women being property but I would totally take Majorie Taylor Green as property. Then I could smack the shit out of her until she quits saying stupid ass shit that riles the American public in anger

Jiggle_Physics@lemmy.world on 25 Aug 18:24 collapse

Well, if she gets the hyper conservative, very old school, way of doing things, that she wants, you wont have to worry about seeing, or hearing, her again. She will be in the house, and not be allowed to be in the government. I mean she won’t even be able to vote.

Mammothmothman@lemmy.ca on 25 Aug 18:26 collapse

They love building strawmen dont they.

damnedfurry@lemmy.world on 26 Aug 00:44 collapse

Everyone loves building strawmen. If you think only “they” do it, it’s because you’re unquestioningly accepting the ones that confirm your biases.

douglasg14b@lemmy.world on 25 Aug 17:40 next collapse

Incels at least is a natural consequence of the difference between society’s expectations, the needs of an individual, and generally the lack of support and or direct toxicity towards men who need help and emotional support men require as humans.

That one is a societal problem around isolating people away from affection.

The rest I have no freaking clue how one becomes a Nazi in 2024.

Don_Dickle@lemmy.world on 25 Aug 17:50 collapse

You make it sound like incels become incels because they weren’t loved enough during childhood.

LiamMayfair@lemmy.sdf.org on 25 Aug 18:01 next collapse

Being an unloved —or worse, abused— child is quite often the root cause of a vast number of affective and personality disorders people develop later on as an adult.

Don_Dickle@lemmy.world on 25 Aug 18:17 collapse

That is total bullshit. My first bf before I turned lesbian would beat me and rape me almost daily to the point I bought a gun to commit suicide. I never used it on myself or him but I broke up with him and moved to the west coast. I am just saying that because I don’t hate men…hell I even find some attractive. But it did not make me hate or whatever an entire gender

LiamMayfair@lemmy.sdf.org on 25 Aug 18:26 collapse

What is exactly the bullshit part about what I said? That a bad childhood usually leads to a fucked up adulthood? Because it does. Of course, everyone copes with trauma or a tough childhood differently, and some people do move on to lead surprisingly well adjusted grown-up lives. But for the ones that don’t, having a poor childhood experience is a very common factor.

It took me 2 mins to find this research paper to evidence what I’m saying: …biomedcentral.com/…/s12889-016-2906-3

I could probably find a few dozen more if I spent more time looking.

Don_Dickle@lemmy.world on 25 Aug 18:39 collapse

Unless you are a follower even in your own mind does not give you the excuse. Cite me one thing where a person grew up in a good child hood and not become normal? Without his or hers thoughts playing into it.

LiamMayfair@lemmy.sdf.org on 26 Aug 13:12 collapse

I’m not saying a traumatic childhood is a good reason to dismiss someone’s crimes as an adult. Whether you had the best life as a kid or not, hate crimes must be punished all the same.

Our responsibility as a society in all of this should be to give these people the support and education they need before they find it in these cults of hate. This is where we’re failing big time.

drunkpostdisaster@lemmy.world on 25 Aug 18:17 next collapse

Ita was the case for me and others.

lightnsfw@reddthat.com on 25 Aug 18:22 collapse

That’s what put me on track to that mindset back when I was in school. I was short and shy and a little weird so I was bullied constantly and girls wouldn’t even talk to me. A large part of that bullying was directed at the fact that I didn’t have a girlfriend which led to me being resentful towards women because I felt like they weren’t even giving me a chance. No one ever supported me, not even my “friends”. I felt stuck in that situation and saw no way to change things which led me to be very hateful. Fortunately I got into a different environment when I was in college with kinder people who accepted me and was able to pull out of it. A lot of people are not that lucky or get too deep in the hole to pull themselves out of even if given the chance.

drunkpostdisaster@lemmy.world on 25 Aug 18:16 next collapse

For incels there really is no other community for them. Hell, even if you are liberal there are not many mens spaces for you.

Don_Dickle@lemmy.world on 25 Aug 18:18 collapse

Ok you got me intrigued so what would be a men’s space?

drunkpostdisaster@lemmy.world on 25 Aug 18:23 next collapse

Any kind of liberal space for men to talk about our issues. Reddit has a community that likes to pretend that is what it is. But it’s more focused on how horrible men are to women

ochi_chernye@startrek.website on 25 Aug 19:28 collapse

My impression of r/menslib, formed when I was subbed there several years ago, was that it catered to people with more money than problems. The discussion there was never about real issues.

drunkpostdisaster@lemmy.world on 25 Aug 19:31 collapse

It got a little better, but there is still a lot of shit backward takes.

Facebones@reddthat.com on 25 Aug 20:41 collapse

I’m just a few drinks in spitballing, but I’d argue a pro mental health men’s group would be valid, men dont have a lot of “unique” issues (that I can think of) but the demonization of MH would definitely be one IMO.

brygphilomena@lemmy.world on 25 Aug 18:23 next collapse

External locus of control.

Bad things in someone’s life is not their fault, but the fault of whatever scapegoat.

Can’t get a girlfriend? It’s women’s fault.

Can’t get a job? It’s illegal immigrants.

Can’t afford to do the things you like? It’s the government taking too many taxes.

Whatever problem someone has, they are looking to blame someone rather than make any changes in their own life.

PolyLlamaRous@lemmy.world on 25 Aug 18:31 next collapse

There is a lot of good books (or audio books) I could suggest. This has been also a interest in mine. The reasons are different and also the same. Many of the top comments touch on some of the points.

BaumGeist@lemmy.ml on 25 Aug 19:12 next collapse

That’s a very complex question with many, many answers. No individual life can be boiled down to a single phenomenon. A lot of the answers I’m seeing in here are great, ans definitely describe a phenomenon at play, but it’s important to remember that nobody’s just outright stupid enough to fall for a single piece of rhetoric. Instead, them coming into bigotry is the result of a complex web of ideas that brought them to that conclusion.

That being said, I’ll add my two cents that I don’t see anyone saying: privilege. Privilege insulates people from how cold and cruel the world can be; in doing so, they don’t learn the comraderie that grows out of shared hardship (aka empathy). They see others experiencing it, and assume they are weak, both for “allowing themselves” to fall into hardship, as well as for “getting conned” by others who have fallen on hardship. This too adds fuel to the fire that is all the other reasons people get pulled into hateful ideologies.

Imagine being excluded from some perceived secret club based on conditions you didn’t have a choice in, and seeing women or bipoc or lgbt or the working class supporting each other. You too would feel resentment towards those who won’t include you in their circles. Yet you never developed the proper understanding of the ties that bind them, so you only see it as hate towards you and your demographic; this then becomes a feedback loop: your hate hurts thode communities, making them even more interdependent on each other, making you more resentful and frustrated.

You fall in with people you don’t really like because of a shared disdain for The Others, and then, because that’s your only lived experience, assume all identity-based comraderie is necessarily just a loose collective of people that only get along because of a common enemy. This reinforces your belief that The Others hate you, only adding fuel to the fire of your own hate.

This is also why these people are so easily manipulated: all you have to do is control their perception of who hates them, and they’ll do whatever you say to make it stop. This is why politics and religion are such great examples, and no “side” is immune. Want to make a leftist out of a fascist? Convince them that The Jews are actually just the bourgeoisie, who must be killed for the good of ourselves and our nation. An anarchist who fears authoritarians will readily agree to being a part of an exclusive coalition of individuals that determines the way society is structured, so, y’know, the authoritarians don’t get their way.

bloodfart@lemmy.ml on 25 Aug 20:35 next collapse

Naziism and fascism are broadly a response to the same material conditions as communism and anarchism (to an extent).

Liberalism does not put forth a response to those conditions because it created them and has no internal process to relieve them (instead it externalizes them) or stop perpetuating them.

When faced with a choice between communism or fascism people generally don’t perform an in-depth analysis of what’s best for them or their cohort but instead attach to the group that provides some relief or aid.

That’s why it’s important to always help people around you when you can.

Makhno@lemmy.world on 25 Aug 20:57 next collapse

Mutual aid is anti-fascist activism!

erev@lemmy.world on 25 Aug 21:57 collapse

As I’ve continued through life, my political and economic ideology has shifted a lot from Marxism and Marx-derived ideologies into a personal interpretation of collectivism that basically is just, “how can we make everything mutual aid?”

blindbunny@lemmy.ml on 25 Aug 22:59 collapse

Fuck yeah we can 🤘

RememberTheApollo_@lemmy.world on 25 Aug 21:23 next collapse

How does liberalism create material conditions leading to nazism and fascism?

I think that’s a stretch to paint with such an unconditional broad brush.

bloodfart@lemmy.ml on 25 Aug 22:30 next collapse

Both movements broadly point to the material conditions created, perpetuated and encouraged by liberalism as their impetus. Scholars within both movements have written extensively cataloguing the precise ways different conditions came to pass and how it’s the fault of liberalism.

Generally speaking your communist will say liberalism sprang from the class relation under capitalism and the bourgeoise, while your fascist will say it was “‘da joos”.

E: I tried to click preview but replied instead but it’s fine because I don’t want to summarize two centuries of political thought anyway.

If you have a specific example you want clarification on I’d be happy to give it but if you truly feel befuddled that a person could say that liberalism creates the conditions (perhaps, contradictions 🤔) for communism or fascism I can point you at a bigass pile of books instead.

RememberTheApollo_@lemmy.world on 25 Aug 22:43 collapse

You keep saying “because liberalism” but you don’t specify why. You repeating yourself and using bigger words isn’t answering the question other than pointing the finger at liberalism.

bloodfart@lemmy.ml on 25 Aug 23:57 collapse

You didn’t ask why, you asked how. It’s really broad question so I was gearing up to answer how by starting with what the two (overly broadly classified) schools of thought called the why.

Then I pushed reply instead of preview and realized while editing my post that I don’t want to reply to you the way I started because it would be long winded and you probably aren’t interested in reading that and I’m certainly not interested in writing it.

Liberalism creates the conditions for revolt and reaction in a lot of different ways but primarily it’s through a combination of pursuit of profit leading to unaccounted for externalities buttressed by primacy of the powerful disguised as freedom in the marketplace and in word and deed.

If you want specific examples or you want examples related to a time, place or event you’re already familiar with just let me know.

It’s hard to summarize hundreds of years of history and philosophy in just a few sentences while on break so please do me the courtesy of not nitpicking my overly broad statements.

RememberTheApollo_@lemmy.world on 26 Aug 00:28 collapse

Liberalism creates the conditions for revolt and reaction in a lot of different ways but primarily it’s through a combination of pursuit of profit leading to unaccounted for externalities buttressed by primacy of the powerful disguised as freedom in the marketplace and in word and deed.

The only place I can find such an association with pursuit of profit and liberalism is specifically in the capitalist-liberal perspective, and that is conjoined with neo-liberalism, basically “free market” that isn’t really free.

I can find no connection with liberalism, as a philosophy or a socioeconomic choice in governance, where the pursuit of profit (other than oligarchy or other authoritarian regimes that pay only lip service to liberal concepts, but that’s the end result, not the philosophical precursor) is the focus or result of liberalism.

If all you care to do is mic drop and gesture aimlessly in the direction of history, I’m afraid your point is lost.

bloodfart@lemmy.ml on 26 Aug 01:23 collapse

Do you think the philosophy of liberalism can be separated from the atomized individual acting in a market?

Those ideas underpin all philosophical liberalism that I’m aware of. We can’t have liberal social relations or philosophy without a market to act as a replacement for the often feudal social relations and theocratic philosophy that existed before liberalism.

Consider Protestantism if you want a great example. It was only possible because the market allowed a class of people access to a new social relation and they needed a new system of beliefs that fit it.

You can’t separate any part of liberalism from the elevated position of the market.

I’m really not trying to be aggressive or only make pithy, in your words mic drop replies. The question you asked is very broad and I’m not able to summarize it without glossing over lots of stuff. I also don’t have the time to type, source, check, proofread and edit a reply that covers the last 800 years.

Like I said, if you want something more specific or that you’re familiar with just name it and we can talk in those terms.

RememberTheApollo_@lemmy.world on 26 Aug 03:13 collapse

Ok. You continue to make connections between liberalism to religion, markets, personal economics, and more…clouded by words like atomize, feudal, and “elevated position of the market”.

Frankly, you don’t make sense. If you are incapable of reducing the connection between the philosophy of liberalism and the direct path to fascism due to plain text tenets of that philosophy it very much sounds like you don’t understand it yourself. Or you’re just making shit up.

You have expended extraordinary paragraphs waving your hands at every point of the compass while claiming you can’t be bothered to expend effort to type an explanation. I spent a good 20 minutes searching for papers, academic, historic, or otherwise, that could connect your claims - in effect I was attempting to prove you right. There are none.

I don’t see any point in continuing this conversation, you make lots of claims using fun words, but nothing to substantiate them.

bloodfart@lemmy.ml on 26 Aug 04:25 collapse

I’m so sorry you’re not understanding. I’m trying my best to choose words carefully so that it’s clear what I’m saying. If something’s not clear feel free to ask for more information and, as I’ve said before, please tell me if tying my replies to a particular line of study, time, place, person or event would help!

If you don’t think it’s worthwhile to have this conversation you’re free not to. It would be pretty illiberal of me to force you to interact in the marketplace of ideals, that would be a violation of your basic liberties!

RememberTheApollo_@lemmy.world on 26 Aug 18:36 collapse

Ok buddy.

bloodfart@lemmy.ml on 27 Aug 04:10 collapse

Is there something I can help you understand?

SoleInvictus@lemmy.blahaj.zone on 25 Aug 22:40 collapse

You may know this, but if not…

Keep in mind they’re likely referring to the philosophy of liberalism, not the United States “liberal=progressive/left leaning”.

RememberTheApollo_@lemmy.world on 25 Aug 23:13 collapse

The comment seems pretty muddy as far as what aspect of liberalism we’re talking about. The poster is saying that liberalism “created the conditions”, a direct act, vs any aspects of liberalism as a philosophical concept creating socioeconomic rules and conditions that lead to the results specified.

I’m trying to sort out what the poster means. I’d like to know what the gap they’re leaping from liberalism to fascism contains. Is it just generic anti-liberalism sentiment this poster is displaying? Or is there a distinction between liberal philosophy ( an incredibly broad concept to just pin unqualified blame to) and liberalism as a modern concept in social policy and governance in their statement?

TokenBoomer@lemmy.world on 26 Aug 15:41 collapse

Classic bloodfart ‼️ banger

BruceTwarzen@lemm.ee on 25 Aug 21:12 next collapse

So there was a town next to where i grew up their claim to fame was that they had a lot of neo nazis. What they basically did was going around and picking up people and outsiders and befriend them, turning them into racists. I think it works like that with a lot of these groups.

ArmokGoB@lemmy.dbzer0.com on 25 Aug 21:22 next collapse

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DragonTypeWyvern@midwest.social on 25 Aug 22:53 next collapse

Garfield is wise. I vote for Garfield as dictator for life.

InternetCitizen2@lemmy.world on 26 Aug 00:39 collapse

Lisan-al Gahib!!

Hupf@feddit.org on 26 Aug 05:33 collapse

Armok and Alad at Anagra.

ZILtoid1991@lemmy.world on 25 Aug 21:46 next collapse

That knowledge needs active reaching out, otherwise you’ll just be in the “bigotry is when irrational hatred of group for the sake of doing evil” camp, which can be easily converted with “experiences”, “statistics”, etc.

I grew up in a very prejudiced family, and my family liked to scream off their lungs at me when I called them racists, because racism was supposed to be done for the sake of evil like in a cartoon, and them having “extensive experiences” of Roma wrongdoings against them makes it okay for them to throw everyone of them under the bus, for the illusion of safety.

angstylittlecatboy@reddthat.com on 25 Aug 22:30 next collapse

Fascists provide easy (but often fake) answers to hard problems. Loneliness, the fear of replacement, that kind of thing.

KillingTimeItself@lemmy.dbzer0.com on 25 Aug 23:00 next collapse

fascist power structures, provide power to people who follow them, and people like power. Power speaks.

This is why literally every government in the world including the US is susceptible to fascism.

yemmly@lemmy.world on 26 Aug 00:23 next collapse

The examined life with all its critical thinking and guarding against bias is hard. The dark side is easier.

A_Random_Idiot@lemmy.world on 26 Aug 00:46 next collapse

Don’t underestimate how much resentment and anger a privileged people can develop when they don’t get every. single. thing. they think they are entitled to.

Olgratin_Magmatoe@lemmy.world on 26 Aug 01:09 next collapse

Don’t Be a Sucker

youtu.be/vGAqYNFQdZ4

This is an anti-fascism film made by the U.S. in the 1940s. It pretty much focuses on answering your exact question. It’s a decent film too.

en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Don't_Be_a_Sucker

orcrist@lemm.ee on 26 Aug 01:46 next collapse

It’s surprisingly easy to teach racism and sexism. Parents do it all the time very effectively. Not long after MLK was killed there was a classroom experiment done, which was later made into a documentary called Blue Eyes Brown Eyes. The whole documentary is an hour long, but I think even watching a shorter 5 minute clip from it will show you just how quickly kids pick up on bad behavior when authority figures feed it to them.

And there are so many other good answers that other people have already written. It’s really neat to learn from so many perspectives.

SpaceCowboy@lemmy.ca on 26 Aug 04:49 next collapse

Social media algorithms present different things to different people. So if you fall for a grift, the algorithm will just show you things that support the grift and never show anything that debunks it.

Someone going down a weird rabbit hole will stay on that for a long time, watching many ads along the way. Someone that starts to think “hey maybe there’s something to this thing” then immediately sees something debunking it may conclude “well that last video was a waste of time” and may decide to go do something else that’s a more worthwhile use of their time. End result, they watch fewer ads. Less revenue for the social media companies.

Weird internet rabbit holes are more profitable than seeing contradicting opinions. So the algorithms are tuned to send people down rabbit holes and not offer information contradicting them.

CitizenKong@lemmy.world on 26 Aug 06:41 next collapse

Yes, but it’s important to note that confirmation bias is always present in our views of the world because our brain tends to keep things simple by prefering confirming to contradicting information. It just has been amplified by recommendation algorithms meant to increase engagement by showing you “more of the stuff you like”, thus trapping you in a filter bubble you might not even be aware of.

ByteOnBikes@slrpnk.net on 26 Aug 13:10 collapse

I just confronted a guy I know who told me with a straight face that poor people struggle with budgeting and that’s why they’re poor.

I asked him where he got that info. He then sent me a bunch of YouTubers.

Knock_Knock_Lemmy_In@lemmy.world on 26 Aug 13:34 collapse

Payday loans sort of suggest this. Bit it’s more how society is biased to keep poor people poor.

OCATMBBL@lemmy.world on 26 Aug 13:59 collapse

Payday loans don’t suggest this. Those are predatory businesses aimed at the poor and desperate.

When you’re one month from disaster and you break a leg, it’s a payday loan or your family doesn’t have a home/food when you work a job without paid leave. And good luck with the disability approval, because even if it eventually comes through, you are on the hook until it does.

Being poor has very little to do with budgeting. I’m sure a substantial portion, if not the majority of them, could figure out how to budget with a $100k income instead of a $30k income.

Knock_Knock_Lemmy_In@lemmy.world on 26 Aug 14:33 next collapse

I agree. My point was that rich people don’t take payday loans, but i recognise that not being able to afford a safetly cushion doesn’t necessarily imply bad planning.

UnderpantsWeevil@lemmy.world on 26 Aug 19:14 collapse

rich people don’t take payday loans

Some do, depending on their circumstances. But when you’ve got a big income it’s easier to get out from under the debt.

Most rich people just use credit cards, though. They’re arguably worse than payday lenders, since the credit limits are much higher. But they’re also very risk averse, so they don’t extend credit to the lower income groups.

Payday lenders and other loan sharks have to spend more on collections and run tighter margins as a result. Far easier to be a credit card company and simply wage a finger at someone’s credit rating to extort payment than to actually execute a repo.

UnderpantsWeevil@lemmy.world on 26 Aug 19:10 collapse

Those are predatory businesses aimed at the poor and desperate.

society is biased to keep poor people poor.

Seems like you agree

Teppichbrand@feddit.org on 26 Aug 06:08 next collapse

Low on Kohlberg

TokenBoomer@lemmy.world on 26 Aug 15:39 collapse

This was very interesting. Thanks

oberstoffensichtlich@feddit.org on 26 Aug 07:22 next collapse

Emotions not ratio are the key.

tiefling@lemmy.blahaj.zone on 26 Aug 07:26 next collapse

The people who claim that women are too emotional to be leaders, are themselves too emotional to make rational life decisions

Don_Dickle@lemmy.world on 26 Aug 13:39 collapse

I maybe wrong in this but has any world leader that is a woman ever gone to war?

DinosaurSr@programming.dev on 26 Aug 14:01 next collapse
Overshoot2648@lemm.ee on 26 Aug 14:10 collapse

In modern times? IDK, but historically female leaders tended to engage in more war as a way to legitimize their rule, whether instigator or not. Kosem Sultan, Queen Isabella of Spain, and Catherine de’ Medici to name a few, but to quote a Quartz article:

“In fact, between 1480 and 1913, Europe’s queens were 27% more likely than its kings to wage war, according to a National Bureau of Economics … And like Isabella, queens were also more likely to amass new territory during their reigns, found the paper’s authors, economists Oeindrila Dube and S.P. Harish.”

Mwa@thelemmy.club on 26 Aug 09:48 next collapse

Prob bcs they believe in conspiracy theories or watch and use and engage in sites that show this info

Knock_Knock_Lemmy_In@lemmy.world on 26 Aug 13:17 collapse

Why the link to conspiracy theories?

Why would knowledge of MKUltra or the Iran–Contra turn someone right wing?

Jakeroxs@sh.itjust.works on 26 Aug 14:43 next collapse

I would imagine it gives you the taste of “everyone is lying to you” and then latch on to… Other people still lying to you, but it’s just randoms online, they’d never lie like govt or the MSM.

It’s easy to fall into if you don’t have the critical thinking skills to sift through what is/isn’t bullshit.

Knock_Knock_Lemmy_In@lemmy.world on 26 Aug 15:14 collapse

Other people still lying to you, but it’s just randoms online, they’d never lie like govt or the MSM

I’m still not getting it. How does this lead to right wing? Why can’t conspiracies lead to left wing support?

Why should they lead to any particular political persuasion?

Jakeroxs@sh.itjust.works on 26 Aug 15:44 collapse

I think it leads people to the fringe in general, I wasn’t making the case for right wing specifically.

Knock_Knock_Lemmy_In@lemmy.world on 26 Aug 21:14 collapse

OK. I see.

I think this occurs most when a mainstream source mixes opinion and fact. People hear the opinion, over time it turns out to be incorrect so people move away from the mainstream.

When a fringe commentator states an opinion that later turns out to be incorrect, those errors are forgiven (or forgotten) or a similar replacement fringe content provider is consumed.

Mwa@thelemmy.club on 26 Aug 15:27 next collapse

Bcs before I would see them believing in conspiracy theories most of them where in Instagram

Jakeroxs@sh.itjust.works on 26 Aug 17:18 collapse

It’s been going on long before insta lol

Mwa@thelemmy.club on 26 Aug 19:31 collapse

yeah like those “free speech” social media and propaganda sites

Jakeroxs@sh.itjust.works on 26 Aug 19:37 collapse

I mean before social media lol, before the internet even.

Mwa@thelemmy.club on 26 Aug 19:55 collapse

oh yeahhhh during the late 1930s till mid 1940s,etc

UnderpantsWeevil@lemmy.world on 26 Aug 18:56 collapse

I’ve seen more than a few people assert “horseshoe theory” on this subject. Since the Far Left and the Far Right are the same, they turn you right by sending you left.

Anti-Americanism makes you a Trump supporter or Xi supporter or whatever. And these fucked secret programs from the 60s and 70s make you anti-American. Ergo…

Mnemnosyne@sh.itjust.works on 26 Aug 10:34 next collapse

Consider this question: how is it that anyone under the age of 40 today has ever smoked?

By the time they were born, the bad effects of smoking were well understood. By the time they were teenagers, not smoking should have been as obvious as not jumping in front of a train. People already addicted find it difficult to quit, but it in no way explains anyone starting.

The question is different and yet very similar, because the things you mention wind up in a similar way. Somehow people start in that route even though it should be obvious not to. And these things you mention are much easier to fall into than smoking because parents, family, etc are all pushing it on people. Smokers generally aren’t pushing their kids, nieces and nephews, grandchildren, etc to smoke, and somehow smoking still proliferates to some degree, just consider how much more difficult to avoid it is for those whose families are actively encouraging them to fall into these methods of belief and hate.

LainTrain@lemmy.dbzer0.com on 26 Aug 11:23 next collapse

For me as a non-smoker, but vaper, it’s not as if I “fell” into anything. I actively choose to vape and like it. I quit before and did not like it. I get way more benefits from nicotine than downsides. These are factual benefits.

It’s a poor analogy for right-wing political beliefs which don’t really work. They do not really lead to the goals they claim.

Mr_Dr_Oink@lemmy.world on 26 Aug 11:42 next collapse

Would i wrong to venture the guess that you didnt like quitting vaping because you were suffering from nicotine withdrawal? I swapped to vaping after years of smoking and eventually quit vaping. It was not enjoyable to quit but i feel a million times better not being beholden to the habit. My lungs feel better, my brain feels better, my stress levels are lower.

What benefits does nicotine bring other than satifyi g your craving for nicotine.

LainTrain@lemmy.dbzer0.com on 26 Aug 15:31 collapse

Nah. I quit for quite a few months and my withdrawals largely passed, I no longer had any nicotine cravings by that point.

Then I started having serious problems with academic performance, insane mood swings, etc.

My stress levels were much higher, I had brain fog constantly and was either restless or super low energy.

I experienced zero benefits to quitting vaping in terms of physical wellbeing also, my lungs felt no different before or after, but I never smoked, but I did almost become obese after quitting due to the lack of hunger suppression.

I didn’t connect it to quitting nicotine at first and searched for psychological explanations, but I had no actual reasons to be struggling at the time, eventually I realized it started a few months after I’d quit vaping. When I started using nicotine again via patches, after some time I started feeling like myself again.

Turns out I had undiagnosed ADHD - now professionally diagnosed so I actually was genuinely way better off on nicotine than off of it, it does the same thing as Adderall (Amphetamine) does as well, but more subtle and in a slightly different way, a combination of both has really made me a much better person, far more rational and just generally way calmer, but also way more productive. I now have an MSc and a decently paying IT career, a stable and healthy relationship, healthy weight and I’m always working on self-improving through exercise, learning or minimizing other vices like cutting out all sugary foods, no more snacks, more veg, less alcohol etc etc. I wouldn’t have had any of this without good ol’ nicotine.

From my discussions with the diagnosing psychiatrist, this is a relatively common thing amongst folks with ADHD.

There are a number of studies that suggest Nicotine’s potential usefulness in “neurospicy” people:

www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC5758075/

pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/8741955/

One study suggested that poor cognitive performance overall being a good predictor for relapse among smokers could actually be explained by rhe fact that nicotine being a stimulant has wide ranging helpful effects for cognitive function:

www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC6018192/

ADHD or not I can certainly relate. If I had to put a word to how I felt off nicotine, I’d say I primarily just felt like I was dumb.

Here’s also a science direct article that mentions cites a range of studies, including on that of its positive effects on people with Alzheimer’s;

www.sciencedirect.com/…/S027858462300009X

Drugs are drugs. YMMV. Assuming that chemical X is always bad when this isn’t the case isn’t useful to a productive discussion. Even if you want to dissuade people from nicotine absolutely - an approach that works far better to actually getting people on board is being honest.

On Reddit, subs like quitvaping and the caffeine quitting one are full of misinformation that is transparently a bunch of people RPing the war on drugs infomercials of the late 80s, not much different from the semen retention pseudoscience folks.

But also don’t smoke. Obligatory disclaimer but Inhaling combustion smoke just isn’t worth any benefit of anything, not nicotine, not devil’s lettuce.

Vaping is far far safer and so far is not known to cause any issues, (unless of course you count the tainted dark market unregulated american weed vapes which will give you popcorn lung), though as always, we can’t be sure, so best use something like patches.

Mr_Dr_Oink@lemmy.world on 26 Aug 17:23 collapse

You mentioned it turns out you have ADHD (turns out so do i) and that you began medication for that and it reads that this medication began at around the same time as you started on nicotine again.

I am inclined to ask the question. Do you think perhaps you are associating the effects of the ADHD treatment to nicotine use?

There certainly are some documented benefits to nicotine use. And much of what you say is verifiable. However, many of the benefits you describe can be associated with the treatment of ADHD aswell.

I accept i dont know your personal situation. I only read your comment and noticed the timing seemed to be a bit close.

On the subject of vaping, i personally experienced some sticky phlegm and trouble coughing this up as well as issues with lung capacity and the dependance on the nicotine made me extremely irritable and unable to concentrate until i vaped.

Also it takes longer than a few months to break a nicotine addiction. I still uphold the idea that there may have been some withdrawal going on there.

However i am happy to conceed the point if you genuinely disagree. As i said i have no idea about your personal situation.

LainTrain@lemmy.dbzer0.com on 27 Aug 07:11 collapse

and it reads that this medication began at around the same time as you started on nicotine again.

No, there was at least a few months between these two events. I should’ve phrased it better.

Do you think perhaps you are associating the effects of the ADHD treatment to nicotine use?

No. They’re wildly different in feel. I can tell when my meds wear off and when they kick in most days. That’s why I like having both.

i personally experienced some sticky phlegm and trouble coughing this up

This is far more likely due to the fact you used to smoke. I have anecdotally heard of some people who have issues with feeling like their throat is irritated, but they usually have crazy setups, like 300w 4-coil 0.24ohm temple RDAs with 1.5mg nic on a noisy cricket II in series or w/e. I have a hunch that the reason for it. Those were fun AF but I wouldn’t use it long term, it’s the equivalent of thinking that because a bar of chocolate doesn’t hurt you, then neither can a giant dump truck.

I’ve long switched to the rechargable elfbars with high strength (relatively) nic salts and low vapour volume which I’ve had no issues with.

and the dependance on the nicotine made me extremely irritable and unable to concentrate until i vaped

That’s true for sure. If I know I’m not gonna be able to vape I just use nicotine patches, I have no psychological addiction to vaping itself, only a physiological dependency on nicotine, if the patches match my nicotine intake levels, then I tend to forget vaping is even a thing at all haha.

Also it takes longer than a few months to break a nicotine addiction.

Yes, in terms of cravings, and those did pass actually, but in terms of such acute withdrawal effects? Nah - something is definitely going on there that wasn’t just pure withdrawals.

As i said i have no idea about your personal situation.

You do now that I wrote it out :)

Either way, have a good day!

Charzard4261@programming.dev on 26 Aug 11:51 collapse

The guy wasn’t talking about vaping though, but smoking. The one we know for sure gives you a ton of issues and health problems.

Whilst I agree it’s not a great analogy for right wing beliefs, I’d say it works as a good analogy for incel behaviour. I knew a guy who had fallen into that trap but managed to find his way out. When I asked him about it, he said it helped him cope, that it was easier to believe that it wasn’t his fault things were so shitty.

I really respect how he was able to realise that the things he and the people around him were saying was bullshit, and it made me realise that a lot of these people are being taken advantage of by “influencers” spewing this harmful rhetoric.

UnderpantsWeevil@lemmy.world on 26 Aug 18:52 collapse

Somehow people start in that route even though it should be obvious not to.

Nicotine provides a short term mental stimulus that’s great for people who feel exhausted or have trouble staying focused.

That’s why lots of people start smoking in school and lots of professionals continue smoking well past the point at which the health effects are obvious.

I know a pulmonologist who smoked until he was in his thirties. Literally “how do you expect me to do my job without this?” was his response when I pressed him on it. Lawyers still smoke like chimneys and for the same reasons

WhyFlip@lemmy.world on 26 Aug 14:02 next collapse

Incel isn’t something that you become.

constantturtleaction@lemmy.world on 26 Aug 15:42 next collapse

This sounds like something an incel would say.

UnderpantsWeevil@lemmy.world on 26 Aug 19:08 collapse

I mean, involuntary anything isn’t really a choice. It’s right there in the name.

But the original self-professed incel was a woman, complaining that she was “unfuckable”. The term now tends to describe mostly men who feel fury at some social system that prevents them from caging a TradWife into their house, rather than the 00s era college NEET who just feels like their youth is being wasted because they aren’t getting laid.

The cliquishness might be a choice, but the condition certainly isn’t.

constantturtleaction@lemmy.world on 01 Sep 17:02 collapse

Celibacy is a lifestyle choice. Wanting sex and not having it, is not what I would call “involuntarily adopting a lifestyle choice”. Incel is rather, like you said, the feeling of being “unfuckable”. The problem, as I see it, is that the majority of men in this position are voluntarily “unfuckable”. They are actively being unlikeable by doing things like treating women like they they should be required to like them, which in turn, makes them “unfuckable”.

UnderpantsWeevil@lemmy.world on 01 Sep 18:07 collapse

The problem, as I see it, is that the majority of men in this position are voluntarily “unfuckable”.

The original incel was a college aged woman who felt she was being rejected by all her male peers.

There isn’t a shortage of incel women. They just don’t get the five alarm five media coverage and right wing political pandering that men do.

Men are taught to fight one another for “prized” women, while women are taught that failing some commercial beauty standard means you doing get to have a love life.

So you end up with these PUA communities on the guy side - insufferable horndogs constantly chasing tail - while women become hermits out of shame.

Plenty of people in both pools are “fuckable”. But they’re poisoned into believing they can’t have mature relationships with one another by a mass media full of toxic tropes and derogatory standards.

Cracks_InTheWalls@sh.itjust.works on 26 Aug 16:23 collapse

It’s a term that’s taken on some additional baggage/meaning. Originally it simply meant someone who was involuntarily celibate - wants to have sexual relationships, but doesn’t. Now it usually refers to someone adhering to a kind of peculiar set of ideologies around that (see: social value theories taken to some often ridiculous extremes; good ol’ fashioned misogyny/perhaps misanthropy; etc.).

There’s a kneejerk reaction to incels in the latter sense because so much that comes out of that is pretty awful. That and it’s often folks who engage with the latter stuff who are more inclined to identify with the term incel - most others who just fit the former definition just say they’re single.

IMO the latter usage is just more proof that we are failing and continuing to fail men, badly, in terms of community and mental health supports.

WhyFlip@lemmy.world on 26 Aug 16:52 collapse

Well said and agree.

Fedizen@lemmy.world on 26 Aug 14:37 next collapse

Many of these people overreact to good faith criticism and are narcissistic. There are some statistics that people become less self centered as they get older and incels definitely fall into that trap.

As for nazis etc, lots of that comes from like a lack of critical thinking about conspiracy theories. Its fine to think about conspiracy theories but the second you start embracing that like millions of people are conspiring against you to like stub your toe or something thats maybe the time to reign it in.

B312@lemmy.world on 26 Aug 15:50 next collapse

Echo chambers which most social media apps and websites really love to create

spacecadet@lemm.ee on 26 Aug 15:59 next collapse

Disenfranchisement is a hell of a drug. A lot don’t believe in the ideology at first, but are forced into it because they lacked proper role models when they were young.

Don_Dickle@lemmy.world on 26 Aug 16:01 collapse

Good use of the D word haven’t heard or read it in a while…no sarcasm

jj4211@lemmy.world on 26 Aug 16:23 next collapse

It’s not a matter of knowledge, it’s a matter of what they want.

One may desire to be advantaged/superior to some others, and particularly nice and easy if race or gender is a convenient shorthand for knowing who is ‘in’ and ‘out’, as long as you are in the ‘in’ group of course.

So life is just plain easier if women are just supposed to sit there and please them. If the ‘natural order’ justifies that convenience, then one may be attracted to that thought. To the extent fairness and equality makes their life harder, they are inclined to be upset at that obstackle. It’s convenient if the legal and labor world gives their race preferential treatment, and other groups are left desperate enough to do whatever they need done but don’t want to do, and scared enough of the government to not get “uppity”.

Sometimes overt evil, sometimes more subconscious manifesting as being very receptive to narratives that correlate with those feelings.

Yambu@lemmy.dbzer0.com on 26 Aug 17:31 next collapse

One of my closer friends is on a weird path atm. He’s full into Russian propaganda, anti-western stuff, flat earth, anti vaxx and whatnot.

I tried to reason with him. Turns out he doesn’t even know how to verify something he’s read online. Check sources? Nope. Google something you’ve seen in a video that sounds super weird? Nope, just believe it.

I came to accept that he might just be too stupid to navigate modern media without being a victim of misinformation, propaganda and lies.

UnderpantsWeevil@lemmy.world on 26 Aug 18:46 collapse

Check sources? Nope. Google something you’ve seen in a video that sounds super weird? Nope, just believe it.

Those are hardly panacea, as you need a reliable frame of reference for verification.

I remember during the heyday of WikiLeaks, how conservatives and liberals alike dismissed the info dumps as misinformation and edited images/video. You couldn’t talk about PRISM with anyone over 40, because all the Cable News outlets were claiming it had been debunked. You couldn’t talk about Collateral Murder because it was endlessly getting blocked on social media as “disinformation”.

And that was before the advent of AI generated images and whole books churned out with LLMs. What do you say to the guy who is hip deep in “evidence” from the Heritage Foundation? What do you say to a TERF quoting from the Cass Report? What happens when you get a rebuttal in the form of a Tucker Carlson Interview from Moscow?

Yeah, you can just wave that off as “Fake News, doesn’t count”. But then so can they, and we’re back to Square One on validating any kind of underlying truth.

he might just be too stupid to navigate modern media without being a victim of misinformation

None of us are immune to propaganda. Thinking this is a matter of simple intelligence is the first trap you fall into when evaluating a source.

It’s so easy to tell yourself “I’m smarter, therefore you must be wrong” and work backwards from there.

jwmgregory@lemmy.dbzer0.com on 26 Aug 19:01 collapse

now, this’n right here kids is a prime specimen of what those highfalutin desk jockeys call a “global citizen.”

UnderpantsWeevil@lemmy.world on 26 Aug 19:15 collapse

I’ve been called worse

Lumelore@lemmy.blahaj.zone on 26 Aug 19:03 next collapse

As a young person who grew up on the internet, with no parental oversight, I can say it’s because there is a lot of right wing bullshit online that media companies love to push on their users. When I was a tween I got suckered into it hard when one day youtube decided to put mgtow videos in my recommended feed. I never initially searched for them. I did eventually get out of it, and I’m not entirely sure how, but I remember as a 13yo seeing trump in 2016 bully that disabled reporter and it really put a sour taste in my mouth. And then over the next few years that led to me leaving catholicism, becoming a socialist, and realizing I’m transgender and very gay.

With me being transgender and pan, that adds another aspect to it, because I think I knew subconsciously that I was queer as a tween, but growing up in an environment where I was repeatedly told those things were wrong led to me feeling absolutely miserable about myself, and misery loves company. And this also makes me wonder how many nazis are queer and don’t even realize it or refuse to recognize it.

mineralfellow@lemmy.world on 26 Aug 19:06 next collapse

Feels > reals.

paddirn@lemmy.world on 26 Aug 19:32 next collapse

“so much knowledge against it”? We live in a n overwhelming ocean of information, what seems obvious to many people may be completely unheard of in other areas, we’re not all getting our information from the same sources. Or some people have become indoctrinated by other groups and have become basically inoculated against “wokeism”. Plato’s allegory of the cave is just as relevant today as it was in his time (if not more so). There are people spending their whole lives looking at shadow puppets dancing on the wall, thinking that that’s reality. Who knows, maybe it’s us, but the point is, even though we’re awash in information, ignorance is alive and well.

Don_Dickle@lemmy.world on 27 Aug 02:06 collapse

Great usage of Plato’s Cave haven’t heard it in a long time. Makes me feel young again…no sarcasm

aredditimmigrant@feddit.nl on 26 Aug 19:52 next collapse

It’s the same as it’s always been. We gravitate towards what we feel.

The internet has just allowed certain groups who wmight be ashamed to announce their true feelings to say the quiet part out loud anonymously. This gets the next generation to not see a problem with it and go from there.

As an example. Take an impressionable young boy (14-18), he has trouble getting dates, doesn’t have a great home life. Little bit of a loner. Before the internet, hed have to figure out a purpose. Maybe he’d start going to a gym or hitting the books harder to be smarter or something… With the Internet he’s able to find “friends”, he finds a community, that community may lead him down dark paths… Where some in better living situations may say “this is too much” and walk away, he doesn’t have anything to walk to… So he gets more and more indoctrinated into the cause.

bouh@lemmy.world on 26 Aug 23:13 next collapse

It’s a slippery slope. First it’s either a community they can share anything with, or it is a subject dear to them that they see people give solution to. Then, slowly, one idea at a time, they get litteraly corrupted. Ideas are imprinted through repetition, values are suggested. Then, or before, you imprint the idea that the others are lying. This is key because it seed doubt in everything, but as he is closer from this group, this group get to imprint its own ideas through repetition alone. Distance is built with relatives so that the group is the only group he has. Then if he starts to disagree, he will be kicked, sometimes also punished, and he’ll be left alone, or at least he must be convinced of it. Once there radicalisation is a process that’s hard to stop.

Doubt, distrust, and a group to be with are the key ingredients. Liberalism is a fertile ground for this because it promotes individualism when humans are social creatures. So it’s very easy to find people in need of a social group that gives belonging. And racism makes the easiest pretense : you belong because of your blood, or because you’re born here.

For sexism, it’s mostly a reactionary backlash, and secondly this liberalism problem of promoting individualism to humans who seek belonging. Feminism did won, and the old way of treating women is being addressed. But it is a process, and while we know what’s bad, we don’t have much new examples to follow. Yet most people have been trained in the old way, so now they are at lost. It’s not the first reason why they’re alone, liberalism has this place, but it is far easier to blame it on women and feminism than to try to build a new society. And also, it again gives them belonging with men like them that understands them and give explanations and solutions to their problems. Not good ones, but that’s not the point.

Don_Dickle@lemmy.world on 27 Aug 01:25 collapse

Ok got to ask and if you don’t know thats ok…how come it seems females are not in this type of group.? Or is there some and we just don’t hear about it? I only bring it up because you kept using he and men so thats what got me wondering…but really want to say thank you for typing all that out and a thought provocing answer…no sarcasm

bouh@lemmy.world on 27 Aug 07:14 collapse

For the first, it can be women too. For misogyny it’s harder. But there is a trend currently to attract and radicalise women into conservatism too. The trad wives movement. I don’t remember the names but there are movement for spirituality and naturalism that are also linked to trad wives. That is also a slippery slope : first you hook them spirituality, and at the end you have JK Rowling who is an anti-trans activist.

Women and men are not in the same groups simply because conservatives are misogynistic so they like to separate men and women.

Overall it is a culture war lead by the far right.

Cowbee@lemmy.ml on 27 Aug 18:54 next collapse

Fascism is a result of declining Capitalism, as an example. Ideas come from material reality, not spontaneously.

HollowNaught@lemmy.world on 28 Aug 06:58 collapse

As someone who’s had several long debates with a neonazi on discord, it usually boils down to them saying “Goldbloom controls you, all your arguments are therefore nullified”

Their aptitude for dismissing information is amazing

thesporkeffect@lemmy.world on 01 Sep 20:56 collapse

Which is why we don’t debate them, and avoid giving them a public platform!

HollowNaught@lemmy.world on 01 Sep 22:43 collapse

After we had our fun with them we banned them. We still laugh about it to this day