What does it mean if I’m the first person my former friend turns to?
from relation_anon4238@thelemmy.club to nostupidquestions@lemmy.world on 07 Sep 19:59
https://thelemmy.club/post/34354741

Even if the girl who bullied me in high school blamed me, got her friends to threaten me, etc. she still seemed to enjoy my company and I was always the first person she turned to when bad things happened.

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lilcutie24@sh.itjust.works on 07 Sep 20:01 next collapse

it means she’s using you

BlameThePeacock@lemmy.ca on 07 Sep 20:01 next collapse

It means you should move on

6nk06@sh.itjust.works on 07 Sep 20:38 next collapse

She’s a bully, not a friend.

EmpatheticTeddyBear@lemmy.world on 07 Sep 20:45 next collapse

That this person has burned all their bridges and the others have put their foot down very firmly with this person. Your turn.

Tangent5280@lemmy.world on 08 Sep 07:26 collapse

I am alternating between glee at imagining how that would go and dread at the possibility that this poor person will decide to not do that and keep hurting themselves 😁😰

Ganbat@lemmy.dbzer0.com on 07 Sep 21:00 next collapse

She bullied you and threatened you? It means you’re an easy mark to her. Someone she knows she can use as she pleases and discard when she no longer has a need.

NutinButNet@hilariouschaos.com on 07 Sep 21:20 collapse

Probably taking advantage of you. You seem like you’re the only real person who’s been kind to her and she doesn’t respect it but desires it and only comes when she needs it.

That’s a user. Someone who doesn’t care about you and only wants you around when you benefit them.

A true friend is someone who is there with you for the good and bad times, alike. They’re not just coming around because they need help. They’re also coming around because they want to spend time with you and grow with you and they want to be there when you need help too.

This is not a friend of any sort. This is a person who uses people.

You seem to partly know this deep down since you call her a former friend. You know she’s up to no good.