from JBrady64@lemmy.world to nostupidquestions@lemmy.world on 17 Dec 00:17
https://lemmy.world/post/40300447
I’m under average sized, but my fiancé and I have a good sex life. She enjoys sex with me (that part isn’t in question). She reacts and sometimes even has light PIV orgasms when we do.
She’s also shared that in some positions she doesn’t feel as much physically. She still values the emotional connection and wants me inside her, and we do this very often.
However, after some conversation, we agreed to buy an expensive very realistic dildo that’s significantly larger than me… The size difference is obvious, and when we use it together, her physical reactions and orgasms are noticeably more intense. I use it with a harness and pretend it’s me, and I know for certain that’s the only reason it even works for her. For context I’m 4” long and 4” circumference, and the dildo is 8” long by 6”.
I know a lot of guys might find this embarrassing, but I like to see her get pleasure. Do you see any potential downside to this?
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Consensual fun. Go nutz!
Only potential downside is your feelings about it. Talk to a therapist about it if needed - but just keep talking to your fiancee and you’ll be fine
Are you happy? Is your partner happy?
There’s your answer
Am married hen of 33 years…
There are no downsides whatsoever!
If you two are in the relationship for the long haul, keeping the sex fun and interesting is perfect. This is how relationships last. No hangups, no insecurity (sounds like you’re doing just fine with that…) just fuck each other silly into the mattress, the sofa, the kitchen table… wherever!
It’s not about what you’ve got, it’s about what you do with it and YES, enhancements are totally fine. Go be the sex-beast you are and have fun!
Mad props to you kid!
Thanks! It took me a little while to get over the huge size difference, but watching her go wild and have huge Os makes it worth it.
This is the right attitude. I would encourage folks to be a bit less goal-oriented (orgasms don’t have to be everything), but you’ve got the spirit, and you get credit for that.
There is absolutely no shame in providing your partner with a good time, regardless of the tools involved in the process. Whether those tools are part of one’s body or not matters very little in the grand scheme of things.
Only if it’s called Kenneth
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Dirk
Who cares what I think? You’re not using my dildo, are you?
Yeah, this is between y’all, and it can stay that way. If all parties involved are getting what they want out of the experiences they have together, I don’t see any problem.
If you can give her a clitoral orgasm with your fingers or tongue - you can then use your penis to put icing on “the cake”.
only thing that matters is what you and her think/want.
There is nothing wrong with using toys with someone you love and want to give pleasure to. A toy alone works to make a person climax but they are so much better when you have another person there to share it with.
I look at toys as something that makes it a little bit easier to ring her bell. Sometimes it’s about her desire to orgasm while I am inside of her.
My late wife found it more and more difficult to climax at all before she passed and I still remember her last one riding me with a toy on her clitorous. If I had been intimidated by a toy I wouldn’t likely have that memory at all as it had been about a year before that when she had last climaxed which also included a similar toy. Being together was the most important part of it.
You enjoy pleasuring your wife, your wife enjoys you pleasuring her.
Seems like a no brainer unless you feel some sort of prestige about it, which evidently you don’t?
And your wife only gets of if you’re the one behind the harness so. Good for you!
Get a cocksleeve. Blissful creations makes some really great pieces. It’s a dildo that you wear essentially
I mean as long as this doesn’t make you feel inadequate or some other negative stuff like that.
That’s the relevant point right here. But you only mention how she feels about it. What about you?
In general, speaking from a woman’s point of view: a man that is not only not afraid to use sex toys (there are a lot out there…) but also knows what they’re doing and listens to what I want, is a jackpot in bed. No matter how they’re build. No downsides.
My spouse sometimes likes gigantic boobs and though I’m already build quite good, it’s not always enough for him. So we bought some huge silicone tits I can wear on top and seeing how happy it makes him is more than enough to overcome that little sting in the back of my head. Because let’s be honest: being able to pleasure your partner can make you feel very connected but also powerful.
So I hope you feel confident using this 8’’ bad boy because you have all the reason to.
No way - you straight up say she enjoys having sex with you, and you’re making sure she’s taken care of. Who cares how it’s done - you enjoy it, she enjoys it, and you both get to finish. I see nothing but wins here, king.