Alpha from The Walking Dead.

It is represented in media, see the film Mommy Dearest. Even in the Wizard of Oz the woman is the abuser. The series The Terror streaming now, woman the abuser. Fatal Attraction, Cruella, Misery, Carrie, etc.

Boy, you’ve obviously never seen Precious (2009)

Betty Davis in The Little Foxes

I think the sexual stereotypes are is that men hit And women tend to abuse through mental anguish.

Mental anguish is harder to portray on a screen than someone beating the fuck out of you.

This little theory, I’ve said you know ignores the fact that neglect is the most common type of abuse.

The four types of abuse are physical, sexual, mental and neglect. The vast majority of abuse that happens to children is neglect. It’s been a long time since I looked at the numbers, but I’m pretty sure that physical is The least common type of abuse

Sopranos, she literally tries to kill him.

Not really answering the question but if you’re looking for movies with an abusive mom, there are more than a few! (especially horror.) Off the top of my head:

Carrie is the classic, hereditary is a new classic. Braindead (dead alive) is a classic splatter horror.

Non horror: I Tonya, black swan, Mommie Dearest, Precious, Beau is afraid, Wild at Heart and maybe 8 mile?

Edit: My God, I’m forgetting/blocking one of the darkest movies I’ve seen in awhile, Bring Her Back.

I’m a third of the way through a sorceress comes to call and it’s definitely the mom in that!

FWIW, in fairy tales the mother is the bad parent more often than not.

Animal Kingdom has an abusive mother. Pretty good criminal series. Reminded me of Sons of Anarchy.

Because women are wonderful. Look it up.

Takopi's Original Sin.

I wouldn't say never and when they are people have harder time noticing because it requires pretty high emotional intelligence to understand that shit ain't right.

Woman's abuse just looks different. It is verbal and behavioral generally speaking. Woman can say something to the child and nobody in the room will notice. The kid sure knew what's up tho.

Yeah, there’s a reason my 28 years old son still talks to me and not his mother.

Malcom in the middle did it

A few examples that came to mind that others didn’t list:

Psycho and its reboot or whatever. Possibly THE example.

Mindhunter definitely touches on abusive mothers.

And I don’t want to spoil it, but dear God watch The Bear and prepare to be fucking broken.

Both of my parents were abusive in their own special way.

Idk disney kinda does this sometimes but usally with adoptive/step mothers. I get it though, its much less common and even the ways abusive mothers and fathers are portrayed is heavily influenced by our cultural understanding of gender.

Watch Carrie

Never heard of Mommy Dearest?

As others have pointed out, your premise is incorrect. Women are often portrayed as abusers, just not usually through physical abuse (much like real life).

Also wtf is the "Abused child forgive abusive parent and reunite happily ever after" trope, fuck that shit. Abusers do not deserve forgiveness.

Not to invalidate any experiences you or anyone else may have gone through, but this can get complicated in some situations. For instance, much of what my mom did to me as a kid would be considered emotionally/physically abusive. At the time, I definitely hated her for it. But as we've both grown and changed over time, I've learned that she had a lot of her own problems and was dealing with abuse in her life, as well. She took it out on me, and while it's obviously unacceptable, I don't still hate her today like I did then.

I don't forgive the abuse she put me through, but I understand why she did it. She couldn't break the cycle, and I can't hold that against her; it's fucking tough to get out of an abusive feedback loop like that. But she eventually did, and she's a much better person now than she was then, and we're on much better terms now. For what it's worth, I'm also aware that my acceptance of this may also be a symptom of abuse. Again, it's complicated.

Obviously, not everybody's situation has a positive turn like mine did. I'm lucky enough that my mom knew what she was doing was wrong, and was able to change her ways. Some people aren't as fortunate.

Have you ever heard of Marisa Coulter from His Dark Materials? Just to add to all the other examples people have given

Along with all the other examples listed here:

The Bear

Also wtf is the "Abused child forgive abusive parent and reunite happily ever after" trope, fuck that shit. Abusers do not deserve forgiveness.

No, but depending on circumstances and the work the abuser is willing to put into changing themself and making things as right as they can, forgiveness can be earned.

I’ve seen plenty of abusive mothers on tv. But they aren’t physical in their abuse.

But have a look at “Precious” if you want to be triggered.

I just watched a episode of Buffy Vampire slayer with the abusive witch mother.

Plenty abusive mothers portrayed on all media.

Have you read Carrie?

I totally agree the forgiveness and happy ever after is bullshit. It’s also dangerous, giving people false hope and putting them at risk. Statistically, the murder rate alone shows women are more at risk from abusive men than vice versa. Although women are more likely to be primary caregivers, increasing access to the child

Carrie, precious, tangled, mommie dearest, black swan, ghosts (US), Strange New Worlds, Sopranos, Bojack Horseman, plenty of movies and shows with abusive mothers