What is your age range for dating? šŸ¤” 😮
from cutebc24@piefed.social to nostupidquestions@lemmy.world on 17 Jun 16:22
https://piefed.social/post/942488

I’m 20 and probably wouldn’t date anyone over 39 or under 18-19. If i date someone who is 18, they also can’t be barely 18, they have to have been 18 for a while so birthday is important if they’re 18.

my current girlfriend is 19 x3

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RicoPeru@lemmy.blahaj.zone on 17 Jun 16:26 next collapse

19, probably 17 for a while to 18 as the youngest. my fiancƩe is 18. oldest, 25?? 30??

edit: maybe 40 if a woman, 30 if a man just because i don’t really like middle-aged men (middle aged men, no offense šŸ˜“)

neidu3@sh.itjust.works on 17 Jun 16:34 collapse

None taken. I don’t like us either.

LostWanderer@lemmynsfw.com on 17 Jun 16:31 next collapse

If I were to date at the age of 42, I would not date anyone below the age of 39 or above the age of 46. I would prefer only a 4-year gap in either direction, as the number 4 feels right (very vibes and personal preference based reasoning).

jordanlund@lemmy.world on 17 Jun 16:31 next collapse

I’m 9 years older than my kid sister. We had an agreement, she doesn’t date anyone older than me and I don’t date anyone younger than her.

We both married people in that range.

Internet Creepieness Rule:

Your age / 2 + 7 is the low end limit.

Athon@lemmy.world on 17 Jun 16:50 next collapse

This.

I strayed from this formula by 1 year once (I was 38, she was 25), and there was this strange generational gap where we just had completely different interests, we didn’t get each others’ references, and things fizzled pretty quickly.

Anyone else I’ve dated has been within this formula and we’ve gotten a long quite well. If they’re below this number for you, or you’re below this number for them, even by a little bit, it’ll get weird and you’ll run out of things to talk about pretty quickly.

TheFunkyMonk@lemmy.world on 18 Jun 02:07 collapse

I’m 38 and can’t imagine dating a 26 year old. The woman I’m currently seeing is my same age and it’s great.

Athon@lemmy.world on 19 Jun 13:26 collapse

Yeah, the farther away you get from your own age, the harder it gets to find a relationship that works for you. However, straying from that formula, even a little bit, seems to be a guaranteed breakdown point.

The woman I’m seeing now is three years younger than me, and we work incredibly well together. Gonna keep this one, I think šŸ˜

TheFANUM@lemmy.world on 21 Jun 18:38 collapse

This is the correct answer. For me, it’s about 5 years in either direction.

CarbonIceDragon@pawb.social on 17 Jun 16:34 next collapse

I don’t really even have an age range I guess, I’ve never met anyone I was interested in dating.

ChocoboEnthusiast@leminal.space on 17 Jun 16:37 next collapse

After 30, I feel like the age range should be max 5 in either direction.

deegeese@sopuli.xyz on 17 Jun 16:48 collapse

Wouldn’t want any 60 years olds creeping on 54s.

ChocoboEnthusiast@leminal.space on 17 Jun 16:58 collapse

Eh, if you don’t care about burying your mate way ahead of yourself, go ahead. Just feels like that 5 years keeps you within range of not having to live with that grief too long for too long on the average.

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Diddlydee@feddit.uk on 17 Jun 16:52 next collapse

Your current girlfriend is 57?

Lembot_0003@lemmy.zip on 17 Jun 17:03 next collapse

3 girlfriends, each one is 19.

Apepollo11@lemmy.world on 17 Jun 17:32 collapse

Or something went wrong and they somehow seduced an entire nursery.

Lembot_0003@lemmy.zip on 17 Jun 17:37 collapse

Yes, that is why stating the units of measurement is so important. 3 pcs of 19 y.o girls is good, while 19 pcs of 3 y.o. is a disaster.

sbeak@sopuli.xyz on 19 Jun 13:44 collapse

I’m pretty sure it’s supposed to be a little face guy. Like this :) or this :O

x3 is like a dead cat face I think

Diddlydee@feddit.uk on 19 Jun 20:06 collapse

I am aware. It was a joke.

sbeak@sopuli.xyz on 20 Jun 00:19 collapse

oh, oops.

Deestan@lemmy.world on 17 Jun 16:55 next collapse

That is a strange way to say she’s 57…

But anyway! Range varies wildly with age. 6 years is something you at least ponder at age 25, but will feel like ā€œsame ageā€ around 50.

My feeling based on what people seem to at least not care to even gossip lightly about: max 1 year at age 15. 5 years at 40. 10 years at age 60+.

Wider ranges are not problematic, but gets into at least ā€œinteresting to talk aboutā€. E.g. ā€œThey are 33 and 40! Huh! Good for them.ā€

superduperpirate@lemmy.world on 17 Jun 16:55 next collapse

The largest age gap I’ve been involved with was about 4 years. I was 31, she was 35, and we lasted about three months. Current partner and I are about 1.5 years apart.

If I were single and interested in dating, I think the lowest age I’d be willing to go is half my age plus 7. Someone at the absolute lowest end of that range would need to check a lot of other boxes for me to be willing. Most I’d be willing to go over my age is about 10 years.

But frankly, if I were single, I’d probably just stop the online dating thing and live my best life on my own, and if I met someone who was interested cool, and if not it ain’t the end of the world.

MissJinx@lemmy.world on 17 Jun 17:07 next collapse

I’m 43 and if someone over 35 wants to date you it’s a pedophile

I feel like ±5 is appropriate until 35. After 35 you can’t get lower but you can get as higher as you want

Fiivemacs@lemmy.ca on 17 Jun 17:22 collapse

if someone over 35 wants to date you it’s a pedophile

No…words have definitions for a reason. Pedophiles go after prepubescent children, not 20 year olds who are most certainly postpubes ent. It may not be ā€˜normal’ or viewed highly by people, but it’s not pedophilia.

Also it’s super weird to think 35 and 105 is cool to you, but 35 and 34 if no go territory.

sunzu2@thebrainbin.org on 17 Jun 18:31 next collapse

This pedo muddying water shit is getting tiring.

Just because you don't like something, it doesn't make it a crime and it surely as fuck does it make it a pedo issue.

We already got enough pedo yearning for the wood chipper., j dont get why people waste their energy on Leonardo DiCaprio lol

MissJinx@lemmy.world on 18 Jun 01:53 collapse

a 20 yo is almost a teen, a 35 yo is someone that have lived and it’s not so easy to influence. A 35 with a 105 is weird but we all know both are aware of whats happening, if a 40 is after a 20 it’s because he likes them young and I don’t doubt it would go even lower.

los_chill@programming.dev on 18 Jun 17:43 collapse

Agree. Someone well into adulthood with a preference for dating people right at the border of adolescence is a massive red flag. It may be legal but flying as close to that line as society will allow suggests a more predatory nature.

HiTekRedNek@lemmy.world on 17 Jun 17:55 next collapse

First step: Get permission from my wife to date.

sunzu2@thebrainbin.org on 17 Jun 18:29 collapse

@HiTekRedNek body has been discovered behind a Wendy's near a dumpster with a card board sign

single like a dollar bill, have it for free!

southsamurai@sh.itjust.works on 17 Jun 18:45 next collapse

Hypothetically, I don’t have a limit st the high end, and the low end would be based more on the individual, but no younger than eighteen.

In reality, chances of finding someone in their twenties that would mesh well with for dating is unlikely, so thirty-ish is a more realistic lower age.

Upper end is less restricted for dating, but on a realistic level, I’m not going to enter a relationship with someone that’s into their seventies just because of life span probability after that.

Luckily, I’m happily married, so I don’t have to worry about that shit. But I’ve never cared about ages for dating, since dating is essentially ā€œtrying onā€ someone for a more committed relationship. It makes it worth interacting with people that are less likely to be compatible on a surface level, when going into it with the knowledge that it’s probably going to peter out anyway, so the risks of it having a high price are lower.

Seriously, every relationship has difficulties. You can’t predict what’s going to arise over decades of being together. So limiting options by age ends up being arbitrary. While I never went looking for people far away from my age, anyone old enough and developed enough to understand what a relationship is was the determinant.

Now, on a practical level, once you’re out in the work force, chances are that you’ll be interacting with people from their mid-to-late twenties up to their sixties. So you aren’t going to end up dating outside of that range often. To date someone you have to meet them, and communicate often enough to ask them for time outside of whatever scope you meet them in. So I never really dated outside that range at any point. But I wouldn’t have rejected the possibility if it came up.

I dunno, I just don’t see age gaps as a problem.

SolidShake@lemmy.world on 17 Jun 19:27 next collapse

+/- 6 years.

RBWells@lemmy.world on 17 Jun 21:14 next collapse

In theory maybe 10 years in either direction (I’m old) but in practice I’ve only had long term relationships with guys within a couple years of my age.

Lovers between times, for whatever reason I always ended up with younger guys, that seemed to be the people into me, but still never more than 10 years difference.

When I was your age? One or two years at most. Absolutely not anyone much older or younger, no.

edgemaster72@lemmy.world on 17 Jun 21:30 next collapse

n/a to n/a

throwawayacc0430@sh.itjust.works on 17 Jun 21:50 next collapse

[Error] to [Error]

(Don’t want a relationship. I’ve seen first hand how my parents are miserable with each other, not looking forward to that shit)

zxqwas@lemmy.world on 17 Jun 21:54 next collapse

Whatever-whatever. I don’t have any strict age limit, if you care to make your case I’ll listen. I’m not that busy.

That being said I do have the most in common with women in their 30s, being in my 30s myself

Libra@lemmy.ml on 17 Jun 22:21 next collapse

None, but I’m asexual/aromantic, so…

Kolanaki@pawb.social on 18 Jun 01:55 next collapse

18-5000.

If you’re 5001, I’m sorry but you’re too old.

Waldelfe@feddit.org on 18 Jun 06:41 next collapse

I’ve always dated around ± 3-4 years. I usually didn’t get along with men who were a lot older or younger. My husband is one year and four month younger.

nebulaone@lemmy.world on 18 Jun 10:49 collapse

+/- 5 years (I am in my 30s).

And honestly (I will probably be killed for this) I have no problems with others having big age differences as long as the younger person is at least 21. It’s not like you are significantly more susceptible than later in your life and don’t know what you’re doing.