What is your age range for dating? š¤ š®
from cutebc24@piefed.social to nostupidquestions@lemmy.world on 17 Jun 16:22
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from cutebc24@piefed.social to nostupidquestions@lemmy.world on 17 Jun 16:22
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Iām 20 and probably wouldnāt date anyone over 39 or under 18-19. If i date someone who is 18, they also canāt be barely 18, they have to have been 18 for a while so birthday is important if theyāre 18.
my current girlfriend is 19 x3
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19, probably 17 for a while to 18 as the youngest. my fiancƩe is 18. oldest, 25?? 30??
edit: maybe 40 if a woman, 30 if a man just because i donāt really like middle-aged men (middle aged men, no offense š)
None taken. I donāt like us either.
If I were to date at the age of 42, I would not date anyone below the age of 39 or above the age of 46. I would prefer only a 4-year gap in either direction, as the number 4 feels right (very vibes and personal preference based reasoning).
Iām 9 years older than my kid sister. We had an agreement, she doesnāt date anyone older than me and I donāt date anyone younger than her.
We both married people in that range.
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Your age / 2 + 7 is the low end limit.
This.
I strayed from this formula by 1 year once (I was 38, she was 25), and there was this strange generational gap where we just had completely different interests, we didnāt get each othersā references, and things fizzled pretty quickly.
Anyone else Iāve dated has been within this formula and weāve gotten a long quite well. If theyāre below this number for you, or youāre below this number for them, even by a little bit, itāll get weird and youāll run out of things to talk about pretty quickly.
Iām 38 and canāt imagine dating a 26 year old. The woman Iām currently seeing is my same age and itās great.
Yeah, the farther away you get from your own age, the harder it gets to find a relationship that works for you. However, straying from that formula, even a little bit, seems to be a guaranteed breakdown point.
The woman Iām seeing now is three years younger than me, and we work incredibly well together. Gonna keep this one, I think š
This is the correct answer. For me, itās about 5 years in either direction.
I donāt really even have an age range I guess, Iāve never met anyone I was interested in dating.
After 30, I feel like the age range should be max 5 in either direction.
Wouldnāt want any 60 years olds creeping on 54s.
Eh, if you donāt care about burying your mate way ahead of yourself, go ahead. Just feels like that 5 years keeps you within range of not having to live with that grief too long for too long on the average.
Your current girlfriend is 57?
3 girlfriends, each one is 19.
Or something went wrong and they somehow seduced an entire nursery.
Yes, that is why stating the units of measurement is so important. 3 pcs of 19 y.o girls is good, while 19 pcs of 3 y.o. is a disaster.
Iām pretty sure itās supposed to be a little face guy. Like this :) or this :O
x3 is like a dead cat face I think
I am aware. It was a joke.
oh, oops.
That is a strange way to say sheās 57ā¦
But anyway! Range varies wildly with age. 6 years is something you at least ponder at age 25, but will feel like āsame ageā around 50.
My feeling based on what people seem to at least not care to even gossip lightly about: max 1 year at age 15. 5 years at 40. 10 years at age 60+.
Wider ranges are not problematic, but gets into at least āinteresting to talk aboutā. E.g. āThey are 33 and 40! Huh! Good for them.ā
The largest age gap Iāve been involved with was about 4 years. I was 31, she was 35, and we lasted about three months. Current partner and I are about 1.5 years apart.
If I were single and interested in dating, I think the lowest age Iād be willing to go is half my age plus 7. Someone at the absolute lowest end of that range would need to check a lot of other boxes for me to be willing. Most Iād be willing to go over my age is about 10 years.
But frankly, if I were single, Iād probably just stop the online dating thing and live my best life on my own, and if I met someone who was interested cool, and if not it aināt the end of the world.
Iām 43 and if someone over 35 wants to date you itās a pedophile
I feel like ±5 is appropriate until 35. After 35 you canāt get lower but you can get as higher as you want
Noā¦words have definitions for a reason. Pedophiles go after prepubescent children, not 20 year olds who are most certainly postpubes ent. It may not be ānormalā or viewed highly by people, but itās not pedophilia.
Also itās super weird to think 35 and 105 is cool to you, but 35 and 34 if no go territory.
This pedo muddying water shit is getting tiring.
Just because you don't like something, it doesn't make it a crime and it surely as fuck does it make it a pedo issue.
We already got enough pedo yearning for the wood chipper., j dont get why people waste their energy on Leonardo DiCaprio lol
a 20 yo is almost a teen, a 35 yo is someone that have lived and itās not so easy to influence. A 35 with a 105 is weird but we all know both are aware of whats happening, if a 40 is after a 20 itās because he likes them young and I donāt doubt it would go even lower.
Agree. Someone well into adulthood with a preference for dating people right at the border of adolescence is a massive red flag. It may be legal but flying as close to that line as society will allow suggests a more predatory nature.
First step: Get permission from my wife to date.
@HiTekRedNek body has been discovered behind a Wendy's near a dumpster with a card board sign
Hypothetically, I donāt have a limit st the high end, and the low end would be based more on the individual, but no younger than eighteen.
In reality, chances of finding someone in their twenties that would mesh well with for dating is unlikely, so thirty-ish is a more realistic lower age.
Upper end is less restricted for dating, but on a realistic level, Iām not going to enter a relationship with someone thatās into their seventies just because of life span probability after that.
Luckily, Iām happily married, so I donāt have to worry about that shit. But Iāve never cared about ages for dating, since dating is essentially ātrying onā someone for a more committed relationship. It makes it worth interacting with people that are less likely to be compatible on a surface level, when going into it with the knowledge that itās probably going to peter out anyway, so the risks of it having a high price are lower.
Seriously, every relationship has difficulties. You canāt predict whatās going to arise over decades of being together. So limiting options by age ends up being arbitrary. While I never went looking for people far away from my age, anyone old enough and developed enough to understand what a relationship is was the determinant.
Now, on a practical level, once youāre out in the work force, chances are that youāll be interacting with people from their mid-to-late twenties up to their sixties. So you arenāt going to end up dating outside of that range often. To date someone you have to meet them, and communicate often enough to ask them for time outside of whatever scope you meet them in. So I never really dated outside that range at any point. But I wouldnāt have rejected the possibility if it came up.
I dunno, I just donāt see age gaps as a problem.
+/- 6 years.
In theory maybe 10 years in either direction (Iām old) but in practice Iāve only had long term relationships with guys within a couple years of my age.
Lovers between times, for whatever reason I always ended up with younger guys, that seemed to be the people into me, but still never more than 10 years difference.
When I was your age? One or two years at most. Absolutely not anyone much older or younger, no.
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(Donāt want a relationship. Iāve seen first hand how my parents are miserable with each other, not looking forward to that shit)
Whatever-whatever. I donāt have any strict age limit, if you care to make your case Iāll listen. Iām not that busy.
That being said I do have the most in common with women in their 30s, being in my 30s myself
None, but Iām asexual/aromantic, soā¦
18-5000.
If youāre 5001, Iām sorry but youāre too old.
Iāve always dated around ± 3-4 years. I usually didnāt get along with men who were a lot older or younger. My husband is one year and four month younger.
+/- 5 years (I am in my 30s).
And honestly (I will probably be killed for this) I have no problems with others having big age differences as long as the younger person is at least 21. Itās not like you are significantly more susceptible than later in your life and donāt know what youāre doing.