Why do autistic people often look younger or agesless?
from cheese_greater@lemmy.world to nostupidquestions@lemmy.ca on 08 Mar 2026 15:52
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howrar@lemmy.ca on 08 Mar 2026 16:10 next collapse

How did you get that impression?

cheese_greater@lemmy.world on 08 Mar 2026 16:24 collapse

Been told it many times, maybe im genealizing but ive definitely heard it as an observation about others also

howrar@lemmy.ca on 08 Mar 2026 16:59 collapse

Maybe some people who aren’t as familiar with autism are just more likely to recognize it in people who look younger.

BCsven@lemmy.ca on 08 Mar 2026 17:50 next collapse

if there is correlation, then I would say less time outside in the sunshine

Assassassin@lemmy.dbzer0.com on 08 Mar 2026 19:05 next collapse

That’d be a trade secret.

cheese_greater@lemmy.world on 08 Mar 2026 23:07 collapse

And also an ecumenical matter

Ceruleum@lemmy.wtf on 08 Mar 2026 19:16 next collapse

Cause we do everything slow.

agamemnonymous@sh.itjust.works on 08 Mar 2026 20:01 next collapse

Probably worrying less about pointless bullshit. Stress ages you faster

dsilverz@calckey.world on 08 Mar 2026 20:08 next collapse

@cheese_greater@lemmy.world @nostupidquestions@lemmy.ca

Perhaps your perception comes from the fact that we see/know few (if any) elder people who was diagnosed as someone within the spectrum. It's not because elder people couldn't be autistic, bc they can. In fact, not just they can be autistic, but there are lot of non-diagnosed elder ppl. Something to do with how autism (among other conditions) wasn't diagnosed until recently.

And even nowadays, it's still under-diagnosed: I myself, a 30yo male, may be autistic (actually, I'd be more of an AuDHD, if I'm not someone with Geschwind syndrome, given my auras, sudden spiritual experience, migraines, etc; neither conditions were diagnosed), but the only diagnosis I got so far were ADHD and, recently, Schizotypal PD, although the latter diagnosis felt more of a religious bigotry from a psychiatrist in a mostly-christian country upon hearing about my occultism.

There are other factors as well, as other reply pointed out: solar exposure. We NDs in general tend to be more introvert and homebound because the outside world may be hostile to us, so we prefer staying at home (we were #stayhome people before it became momentarily a widespread thing in 2020).

Why the under-diagnosing? Well, in the eyes of capitalism, it's not profitable to diagnose people with a condition that requires workplaces to be more friendly to our lack of social cue instincts, our different perception of spacetime, and our eccentric (non-linear) way of thinking.

Also, the lack of affordability and the inability to access proper (and non scripted (i.e. not restricted to trying to forcefully fit everything to a DSM-5 handbook)) healthcare. Even in countries where there is public healthcare (such as Brazil, where I was born), mental healthcare can be unaffordable, partly due to the cost of medication (which "Sistema Único de Saúde" (SUS, Brazilian public healthcare system) doesn't always have available for free), partly due to long waiting queue (I myself have been waiting for a psychiatrist appointment for more than a year; tried emergency/crisis healthcare places such as "Centro de Atenção Psicossocial" (CAPS, psychosocial care center, focused on dealing with mental health crises) upon self-harming and suicidal attempts, but they couldn't even begin to comprehend my multilayered and far-from-just-mundane complains; they replied to hour-long soliloquy, which involved me recounting my spiritual afflictions about the Demiurgic nature of existence and complaining about the Kafkaesque absurdity of this world, with "how's your pooping and eating?", and I'm not joke; at the time, I literally had a visible wound on my wrist, but all they could think about was my trips to the restroom and to the kitchen).

If an adult or older ND person can neither access nor afford mental health care, they can't be diagnosed, perpetuating a social situation of under-diagnosis that contributes to make it look like "only young people are autistic".

cheese_greater@lemmy.world on 08 Mar 2026 22:49 collapse

More AuDHD myself as well but I feel yuh

HubertManne@piefed.social on 08 Mar 2026 22:23 next collapse

well I guess I don’t have to be worried about being autistic.

mrsemi@lemmy.world on 08 Mar 2026 22:44 next collapse

Stoneface. No smile lines if you don’t smile. Same for frown lines.

cheese_greater@lemmy.world on 09 Mar 2026 10:39 collapse

Theres sometimes something more “elfin” too tho, I cant quite out my finger on it

ButteryMonkey@piefed.social on 10 Mar 2026 17:52 collapse

Perhaps it’s more to do with being slightly “immature” in hard to identify ways.

What I mean is that people on the spectrum tend to… not recognize or not care that their behaviors aren’t “mature adult” stuff. It’s all just window dressing anyway, and if it doesn’t really matter, why put in the effort to conform? It’s just another mask.

So you’ll see a lot more visible emotion, not the strict regulation expected of adults. You’ll see a lot more action out of the body than you would with a stoic neurotypical adult. You’ll see a more rigid dress aesthetic that’s probably at least somewhat frozen in whatever time period the person figured themselves out, and thus isn’t the aesthetic of their temporal peers.

Stuff like that makes a person seem younger without necessitating looking any different, tho coupled with the underuse of expression making the face also look younger, it would certainly be amplified.

cheese_greater@lemmy.world on 11 Mar 2026 03:49 collapse

Righto

sad_detective_man@sopuli.xyz on 08 Mar 2026 23:03 next collapse

When you’re NT you passively absorb more about aesthetics from your peers as you grow up. Signifiers of age and your social groups are something you practice and get good at, whether or not anyone tells you to.

So autistics have to specifically be very interested in aesthetics to pick up on it. Or be pushed to socially. There’s plenty of us who don’t look like adults in children’s clothes (not me), you just don’t notice them.

RebekahWSD@lemmy.world on 08 Mar 2026 23:09 next collapse

For me it’s been I dress young (sweatpants and tshirts aren’t adult wear) and the micro facial expressions don’t happen as much so less face lines.

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silverneedle@lemmy.ca on 08 Mar 2026 23:31 next collapse

I look like anyone my age. What are you basing your question on concretely? Please elaborate

sveltecider@lemmy.ca on 09 Mar 2026 01:03 next collapse

I get it. People usually assume I’m younger than I am.

lvxferre@mander.xyz on 10 Mar 2026 17:33 collapse

I got a 60~70yo relative, most likely in the autism spectrum, but never diagnosed with it. I don’t think she looks noticeably younger or older than her siblings.

Because of that I think it’s a sampling bias. I think younger autists are way more likely to be detected than her.