You’re not supposed to let people walk all over you, but sometimes overreacting to a situation can just become its own unnecessary complication to the situation.

Your feelings are no less valid than others. But your feelings and your reactions or behaviours are different things, related as they might be. And those reactions and behaviours may be making others think that you are challenging their feelings.

That doesn’t make those reactions unjustified. I have no idea what situations you’re encountering, or how you are reacting to them, but some people are often quick to try and shut down discussions or actions that make them feel bad, particularly if they think they are or should be in a position of authority over others.

It’s not that some people’s emotions aren’t valid, it’s that some emotions are not valid in specific circumstances, eg. getting mad at someone because they’re mad at you is not valid.

Examples?

Seems like that’s a question that should be directed at whomever is telling you your emotions aren’t valid. We surely dont know.

When someone comments on your emotions, I would advise telling them you dont take notes on how you do or should feel and that you won’t be involved with people who feel the need to manage other people’s emotions.

But you have to be prepared to walk away. People who do this kind of stuff betray their own striving for power and control of others and its likely similar to how they were raised. None of that is your problem or imperative to address, you must learn to be an example second and well first which can only be done when you are able to listen to your body and mind in the face of a adverse non-first-party (anyone thats not You) insisting you need to trust them and not yourself.