Do you *envy* other people's lives?
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from sopularity_fax@sopuli.xyz to nostupidquestions@lemmy.ca on 17 Nov 00:51
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What or Who do you find yourself envying specifically?
Im very poor atm but, honestly, i dont envy others. Im pretty happy with what I’ve been able to learn or pickup and I feel the meaning of that famous saying where Kings dread tomorrow and the Poor rejoice in their future relief. I enjoy the insane curiosity I developed and get to practice everyday with Lemmy stuff…
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No. The grass almost always appears greener on the other side, in my opinion anyway.
Be partially colourblind to green, all grass looks shit to me.
Specific parts of specific people’s lives, yes. As a whole, no. Everyone’s got their own shit to deal with
(And is it even possible to know what other people’s lives are like? All we really know is our own view from the outside of what we imagine their life to be)
Kinda. I live in a huge Mormon bastion. They all drive luxury SUV’s filled with kids, large homes staffed by a stay at home mom and an army of housekeepers, landscapers, and sitters. I don’t get how. I don’t want half a dozen kids but right now my wife, son and I are struggling… and we make good money.
I get a little envious when they all pack up and head to Vacation for two weeks, several times per year.
Super
blaséuninformed question: are there any other countries where your skillset (career-wise) is valued or over-valued that you could consider “applying” for?I’m at the top of my pay range for what I do as an engineer. I know the next steps would be to go into middle management, but I’ve seen so many middle managers get fired, I just can’t do that to my family right now (but honestly I hate managing people). The only other option would be to move to a low income city and work from home, but that also comes with a huge set of problems like poor schools, higher crime, and racism of all sorts. As far as another country… I’m not sure, I’ve never looked into it. I’ve spent the last 25 years in Fortune10 companies and most of those are in the US.
Thats a huge credential tho. If any other Lemmings know of something, appreciate if you could reach out or share what you know to facillitate this kinda thing
Never discount luck. The only advice I’m qualified to give is to put yourself out there and be ok with “faking it till you make it.” I worked Retail back in the early 00’s. We had a group of regulars that found out I liked PC gaming and offered me a call center job that was double my pay. Cool, I could answer a phone for a tech company.
The luck part was when the dot(com) bubble burst and the industry was wiped clean. I don’t know how but I survived and started filling expensive positions with my cheap labor (at first). I had to fake it at every step, though later I would realize they were willing to train me (OJT) as opposed to hiring an expensive, more qualified tech. Rinse and repeat at each level.
Perhaps not. There’s a third path for high end IT growth without going into management: Consulting
Its possible to have a particular specialty which would earn you more than a company could regularly pay for a full time W-2 position. This means you could either work for a consulting company getting months long or year long contracts for project based work using your skills, or you could hang your own shingle and sell yourself in the consulting world on your own. Its a different way of working, but if your skillset is compatible with it, it can be lucrative. It also means managing your own finances differently because you can be in “boom” and “bust” times. You’ll have to build your warchest of funds to weather cyclical downturns in the business world.
It also means you can continue to grow your technical skills and salary without having to go into management. Warning: if you are successful, you can see and even more lucrative path with managing your own consulting company.
I definitely envy full-time streamers who spend all day fucking around on a computer in front of a camera, live in super nice homes, go to every convention and have multiple fursuits.
I wish I could make that kind of money fucking around online. That’s the thing I am best at! 😮💨
I’m happy with my life, but I am a bit envious of financial situations better than my own. And not like crazy rich people, I don’t need all that.
I just wish I could have had a better health story. Tumor as a baby, shunt breaking at 32, and numerous mental health crises in between.
I'm often envious of people rich in time (which tends to be rich in money anyway :/). Those who can pursuit whatever they like instead of spending most of their time working for a pay cheque.
Rich = in time
Not always. There are some of us way in between definitions…
No. If I wanted their life, I would have to adopt their lifestyle completely. All or nothing. I know people have their own struggles and problems we don’t ever see.
Very wise. So much fucked up shit goes along with almost every wealthy family story. _Nfortunately, so it goes with unfortunate families also…
Yes and no. I wouldn’t call it envy, but I can see where I could do better for my family, and not just financially.
I envy the people who have the money to not worry about how they’re going to fulfill their basic needs on a regular basis
Being too dumb to understand what’s going on in the world would be pretty sweet
You would need a combination of ignorance and being sufficiently well off to have few problems. Otherwise, you’ll probably end up being one of those people who blame all your problems on the gays or something. I don’t think those people are having a good time.
Should we envy bots or people who claim to detect bots? I saw commenters judge another poster with a recent spike of activity and wondered how they figured it was a bot.